I recently wrote posts on What I Truly Believe about Men and The Creepy Guys We Knew (Who Made Us Think Worse of Men). When I write about men or women specifically, what often happens in the comments section is a bit of a debate about what wives or husbands should be like. Or something that could be summed up as: WHY IS HE/SHE SO CONFUSING?!
I get it. Really, I do. For the life of me, I still cannot understand why my husband and two sons can’t seem to see past the front row of the pantry to find what they’re looking for. Are they just not trying so I’ll have to find everything for them?!
No, they’re not. At the end of the day, I know that my brain is wired differently — that God actually gave me more connections between the two hemispheres of my brain and an ability to multi-task in a way that’s more difficult for them. And my husband has many talents — because he is male — that I don’t have.
Our best approach is to understand and appreciate our differences — even lean into them, knowing that we can complement each other as helpers (Genesis 2:18). More and more, research is showing that men and women are different not just externally, but in how their brains and bodies function. As confusing as it can be sometimes, it’s also something to celebrate!
Why celebrate? Because these two genders — male and female — both represent God’s nature. That’s why this week’s marriage verse is a simple one, but profound: “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27).
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How often I say to my husband, “I can’t believe you guys run the world.” LOL!
Lynn,
We “guys” don’t run the world. We just make the rules and let our wives and secretaries run the world!
Eric
Many other countries are far ahead of the United States when it comes to women in leadership. I pray that one day soon we will be fairly represented and men won’t think they are “letting” us contribute.
You know, I really don’t feel that way. And I think it has a lot to do with the people I choose to hang out with. There are jobs I held in the past that I would never work again, because there was a sexist male in charge. I just wouldn’t put myself in that situation again if I could help it, and I don’t think most men are like that.
Your observation about your husband and sons looking in the pantry made me laugh out loud. My wife says that me and my three sons have “male pattern blindness”!
My best friend and I joke that men need a long pantry with a single, front row. Then they could see everything! 😀