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What the Bible Says about This Election (and Every Other One)

I’ve been voting for about 30 years, and I have never, ever seen an election cycle in the United States as crazy as this one.

That said, I also hold a history degree, so I know that all of our talk about things never having been so contentious doesn’t hold up to what I’ve studied. For instance, you really can’t get more contentious than one region of the country shooting at the other and vice versa (American Civil War, 1861-65).

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I’ve noted on this blog that an election can cause stress in marriages. Despite their love for one another, spouses don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to voting. If you want proof, take a look at the maps from FiveThirtyEight.com that show the difference between if only men voted and if only women voted. I have to believe that contrast means plenty of couples disagree this year.

But as Election Day approaches (next Tuesday here in the U.S.), let me offer a biblical perspective. Vote for whomever you want — honor your conscience — but remember God’s focus is not on who runs the country but who reigns in your life.

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Psalm 146 says:

Praise the Lord.

Praise the Lord, my soul.

I will praise the Lord all my life;
    I will sing praise to my God as long as I live.
Do not put your trust in princes,
    in human beings, who cannot save.
When their spirit departs, they return to the ground;
    on that very day their plans come to nothing.
Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob,
    whose hope is in the Lord their God.

He is the Maker of heaven and earth,
    the sea, and everything in them—
    he remains faithful forever.
He upholds the cause of the oppressed
    and gives food to the hungry.
The Lord sets prisoners free,
    the Lord gives sight to the blind,
the Lord lifts up those who are bowed down,
    the Lord loves the righteous.
The Lord watches over the foreigner
    and sustains the fatherless and the widow,
    but he frustrates the ways of the wicked.

The Lord reigns forever,
    your God, O Zion, for all generations.

Praise the Lord.

Pulling out those two highlighted verses, we get to the crux of the matter: “Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God.”

That’s something God wants us to know about this election and every other one. Humans will fail us, God will not.

You can see this throughout the Bible with its kings — Saul, David, Solomon. Yes, we want great leaders, but God is ultimately concerned with being on the throne in our hearts.

And in our marriages.

That same passage applies to our marriages: “Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save. Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob, whose hope is in the Lord their God.”

  • Your husband, a human being, isn’t responsible for making your life good or happy. Trust God to bring you meaning and joy.
  • When your spouse fails you, and they will, recognize they’re flawed, give grace, and put your faith in God to restore what was broken.
  • When it comes to the marriage bed, don’t look for answers among those who focus only on the human flesh, the physical side of sex. Seek out wisdom that starts with God’s design for intimacy in marriage — those who know that help and hope come from Him.
  • And remember that no matter what great advice I give, I can’t save your marriage. That’s a job for you and God.

Sometimes we put too much trust in the people around us and not enough in our Heavenly Father. Let me assure you that whatever the result of this election, those of us who worship God can have confidence that we’re fine. We have a true Savior.

Lean on that Savior not only this election season, but in your daily life and in your marriage. Remember who is really in charge: God Almighty.

Now give your spouse a kiss and go vote.

Is the Election Making Your Marriage Tense?

No, today doesn’t really have to do with sex in your marriage, unless your frustrations with each other about the U.S. presidential election this year — or a different election where you live — is making you avoid the marriage bed.

But I heard about a Wall Street Journal article titled “Till Death—or Donald—Do Us Part: Couples Spar Over Trump,” which chronicles marriages that have been made rocky by opposing political views. It’s not simply a matter of disagreeing with your spouse, but wondering at times who you even married that could support ______[fill in the blank].

I’m not talking specifically about Donald Trump, because I think the same thing has happened in other election years. Some marriages deal year to year with a sharp divide in political opinion, and the tension is only heightened with upcoming elections.

Is the Election Making Your Marriage Tense?

It surprised a friend of mine recently when she asked who I was voting for, and I told her, and then she asked who my husband was voting for. I said, “I’m not sure.” We discuss our viewpoints at length, but I’ve learned that going into the voting booth, we may not always pull the same lever.

Does it annoy me at times? Yeah, sure. I wouldn’t hold the opinion I have if I didn’t think it was right. And I like being on the same page with my husband.

But we’ve been learning how to handle our differences. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Don’t assume that one candidate or party represents everything right. The only authority who’s got everything right is God. Every other person or institution gets some things right and some things wrong. How we weight those things influences where we find ourselves politically. It doesn’t make your spouse evil to lean a different direction.

2. Ask for clarification. It’s easy to have a knee-jerk reaction if your spouse says they’re pro this or anti that, but ask what they mean. You might find they don’t agree with everything the pro/anti organizations support, and it means something different from what you anticipated. In other words, it might not be as bad as you think.

2. Look for areas of agreement. Oftentimes, when my husband and I debate politics, we discover that we have the same end goal . . . just different ways of arriving there. We’ve also had the scenario where we realize we’re far more in line with each other than we realized once we clear up some misunderstandings. In truth, we agree on the majority of issues.

4. If you can’t talk politics, then don’t. If you know politics is going to erupt into a battle, be a peacemaker and walk away from the fight. There are any number of issues you can discuss in your marriage, from your favorite flavor of ice cream to the theology of sex in Scripture. You can talk about sports and hobbies, people you both know, dreams you each have, things you want to do together, your fondest memories, or the physical intimacy you want to have later that night. Or download A Year of Questions for You and Your Spouse from Generous Wife or 229 Conversation Starters! from Stupendous Marriage.

5. Be your spouse’s friend. Do you only hang out with people who pass a politics test? Must all your friends think like you to have the pleasure of your company? Afford the same kindness to your spouse that you give to others. And if you’re the type of friend who constantly argues with others about politics, you might now have the answer why your friends aren’t calling you back anymore.

6. Don’t bait your spouse. Me? I love a good argument. Not in the sense of a no-holds-barred, all-fists-swinging argument. Rather, I enjoy lively, even intense, debate. But many people don’t. I’ve learned (okay, still learning) to hold my tongue and watch my tone around those who dislike this form of discussion. Which includes my husband. If you know something will rile your spouse, why go there? Why would you want to cause your beloved such distress? Just forgo that conversation, and find a better environment to air your opinions (if they need to be aired at all).

7. Pray for our leaders. I admit we don’t do this often enough in our marriage, but 1 Timothy 2:1-2 says: I urge, then, first of all, that petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people—for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.” It’s a good idea for couples to pray this prayer together, reminding you both that you want leaders who uphold the opportunity to live out our faith.

8. Remember God’s got this. God believes in free will. He gave it to us in the Garden of Eden, and we still have it. Thankfully, in my country, we also have free will in the form of voting for the candidate of our choice. But whatever happens in the voting booths or in our governments, we should remember that everything does not rest on elections. God’s sovereign purposes will prevail:

“Then Job replied to the Lord: ‘I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted.’ ” – Job 42:2

“The Lord Almighty has sworn, ‘Surely, as I have planned, so it will be, and as I have purposed, so it will happen.’ ” – Isaiah 14:24

“In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will, in order that we, who were the first to put our hope in Christ, might be for the praise of his glory.” – Ephesians 1:11-12

Cherish your marriage. Don’t let an election douse the flame of love you have for your husband or wife. And if you’re looking for something to do while election returns are coming in to keep you from stressing, take your spouse in your arms and show how you’d elect him as your lifetime lover again and again. That’s a vote your mate can support.