Second, this post in particular has made me think. I believe it is important for a lady to look classic and elegant in clothes that fit her well and complement her body. Clean lines and tasteful choices are beautiful. And, my husband agrees.

BUT…I have a few things that I only wear when we are on a just-the-two-of-us date, or on a little weekend getaway. Of course, they are still well-fitted and tasteful, but maybe the skirt is a little shorter than my typical conservative length, or the neckline of the dress is a little more daring. Still classy, but a just little more exciting. My husband LOVES IT.

I asked him after reading this post what he thought about it in light of remaining modest in front of others. First, he said, “well, you’re beautiful, so no matter what, I know other men are probably looking at you.” (LOVE that man, especially since motherhood has brought with it crows’ feet, five extra pounds, and a few grey hairs.) But secondly, he said that it made him feel special and excited that I had dressed up for him, and not just by getting out of my regular everyday clothes, but by wearing something special just for him. He likes when I make an extra effort to be a little “sexy” for our date nights, and in turn, his positive response makes me feel so special and adored…and I’m not sure that crosses into immodesty or immorality.

Just my two cents! LOVE the blog — thank you for this unique and much-needed ministry! God bless you and your marriage.

I do take issue with one sentence here, Dana: “It’s like taking a precious beautiful Jean-Bonet Ramsey child and plastering makeup on her until she does not even resemble the innocent child she is.” That is not a good analogy to a wife who dresses in sexy lingerie for the sole viewing of her husband.

Obviously, a black thong peeking out is a problem. That’s inappropriate, and some women simply don’t realize and need training in that area. However, to my thinking, a black thong that I never see on a woman in a very modest dress is between her and her husband.

I am glad that this blog provides a place for people to discuss these topics. If we think these issues through, we are more likely to come to better conclusions – even if they don’t all align with one another. Thanks again for your input, Dana!

Let me say this also in defense of my views, please.
A lady meets her to-be husband. While they were courting, she had discovered certain “magazines & publications” in his bathroom.
I won’t call them ladies because they are not, but women, in those magazines dressed in those skimpy, sexy, slutty underwears or nothing, too I supppose. DO they not?
She asked her fiance to stop looking at those and throw them out and he did. He never looked at another one before they married or since they married.
Now, she never wanted to EVER resemble anything of which he may have seen in those magazines. She wanted to please his eyes with what pure and Godly love could ignite. Because the love and exposure of her body to her husband when they married could still be VERY exciting without looking like the trash he had seen before in those publications.
Now, you can attack my views all you like, but that is where I am at. I am nauseated at the thought of dressing how I used to. I thank God for showing me how wrong I was.
YES heathens wear ties and suits. I am talking about aparrel that is suitable for a born-again, CHRISTIAN woman, married or single. A woman who desires to be the lady I believe God would want her to be.

Think about it this way, you’re already covered. Underneath the underwear is nothing. At some point, you’re bare. No matter how many layers you wear, you’re still naked after the last layer.

Also, how is a thong and fancy bra immodest? If it’s okay to be totally naked in the presence of your spouse, how is a bra and underwear less modest? They would actually cover up some of the body, more than nothing at all would. If a woman’s butt is reserved for her husband’s viewing only, how they decorate it is really their own business.