Comments on: Aligning Your Schedules for Sex

By: Jackie Koll

Jackie Koll — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 00:13:22 +0000

I agree with this post but sometimes, life doesn’t allow it. I know others have stated about work schedules and that is the phase of life we are in right now. My husband gets up around 1;45 or 2:00 every morning so he goes to be at 7;30. I’m sorry, I can’t match that schedule right now and no, we don’t enjoy it! Most nights, due to working 14-16 hours at a physical job, he literally falls into bed and just needs to sleep. We try to keep weekends on the same schedule. But the week, not going to work 🙂

By: Calonder Crew

Calonder Crew — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 20:07:38 +0000

My husband and I are on different schedules for waking up (he’s up super early and I hate mornings), but we go to bed at the same time. However, because he is a morning person, and I’m not, I’m raring to go at night and he is in the morning. We compromise (ok, mostly, he compromises!) most of the time. One of the best compromises for us is middle-of-the-afternoon “naps.” We have six children, ranging in age from 3-15, but we can usually keep them busy for a little while in the afternoons! And that can be the best fun of all!

By: J

Fri, 19 Aug 2011 02:50:58 +0000

Heather – Perhaps I should have added that weekend afternoons have become a nice opportunity for me and my husband as well (thank you, Wii!). The kids are fine, and we get a few minutes to ourselves. If morning/evening just won’t work, be creative and figure out something that will! Blessings!

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 00:05:34 +0000

Thanks for the suggestions! As much as I'm not thrilled about the idea of being woken up, that might be the best thing for us right now. Hoping that as the boys get a little older we can set them down in front of a movie or something and snag some extra time to ourselves. Just don't want to let the mommy/wife balance swing too far in either direction.

Thanks for this blog too, I just found it and have been so blessed by so many of the posts!

By: kurlyfryz

kurlyfryz — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 23:52:33 +0000

My Mr and I have been doing this since we got married (Jan 2010). I was a student, and now I am seeking employment. He works a normal 9 to 5, so it’s very easy to adapt my schedule to his, and it gives my days some structure. We cuddle every night before falling asleep and every morning before getting out of bed. It is so wonderful! It keeps us feeling affectionate and connected, especially during busy weeks. I will be sad if our schedules ever have to diverge. I don’t understand couples who have this opportunity and pass it up.

By: J

Wed, 17 Aug 2011 12:20:51 +0000

Terrific thoughts, Jocelyn & Zookie! Loved your tip, Julie! (Great minds think alike?)

By: Julie Sibert

Julie Sibert — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 04:41:40 +0000

Hey J... I just realized after re-reading your post that the suggestion I gave in my first comment is one you pretty much cover in your post. Ha! That will teach me to not read so fast.

Anyway, great post!

By: Julie Sibert

Julie Sibert — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 04:38:53 +0000

Great post Mrs. Hot Holy Humorous. As a bride to a husband who has worked weird hours for the past four years, I have one tip that may be helpful...

There's no reason why you can't make love and then one person stay up and one go to bed. In other words, let's say the night owl still has boundless energy till 1 a.m., but the other spouse wants to be sleeping by 10:30. Well, make love around 10 p.m.... then the night owl can get back up and continue on with their night, and the other spouse can go to sleep.

It has worked for us to do this occasionally.

By: Zookie

Zookie — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 03:54:23 +0000

Too funny! I do not like to get up early and my dearest husband cannot stand for anyone to be in bed past 8:00 a.m. Him: Get up! You're sleeping the day away! Me: GGGnnnnmmh. Him: Rise and shine!

Anyway, My husband and I have sometimes been on the same schedule, at least for bed times, but usually not. For years he had to be up around 3:30 a.m. for work. There was no way I could go to bed at the same time as him during those years, so I would wake him up for a little lovin' when I came to bed. We've have to work around our schedules a lot. He still has to get up much earlier than I do, but he doesn't need as much sleep as I do, either, so sometimes it works that we go to bed at the same time. I work from home and sometimes I do my work during the night, especially during the summer when the kids are home all day. We'll go to bed, then he'll go to sleep, and I'll get up and go to work.

Also, a few years ago I told him he could wake me in the night any time he wanted to and I wouldn't say no to him.

All these compromises help!

By: Jocelyn

Jocelyn — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 02:07:57 +0000

I have recently begun trying to get myself on some sort of normal sleep schedule. I am all over the place with my most productive hours being between 10pm-3am. My husband however goes to bed at 9pm and has to be up by 5am so you can see how that causes a problem especially since we don’t get home until around 6pm every evening. With things to do like dinner, chores and preparation for the next day we don’t get to spend that much time together. We’ve both decided to compromise a bit and try to see if we can get on the same schedule. Would definitely make regular sex (a huge priority to him and me) easier. I have never been partial to being woken up from my slumber for sex. I think a couple needs to discuss (because a person should know) when they are most receptive to sexual advances. Good luck people! I’m trying to board this train as well.