Daily Archives: August 29, 2011

Wives Want Sex: Link Up

Rembrandt's Woman in Bed

Where is my husband?
Rembrandt [Public domain or Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

Sometimes in the blogosphere, there is a sort of synergy — like sparks of electricity that eventually connect and form a strand of sizzling power.  And that’s what seems to be happening lately with the subject of wives who desire sex more than their husbands.

Since this is a topic that isn’t discussed nearly often enough, and too many wives suffer in silence and don’t know where to turn, today’s post is devoted to providing links to blogs that have discussed the topic.  Somewhere in here, I hope that a wife somewhere out there can find the help she needs to handle this difficult challenge. 

One Flesh Marriage (Kate and Brad Aldrich) posted “I Can’t Remember the Last Time My Husband Touched Me!” – Part 1 and Part 2.   

Intimacy in Marriage (Julie Sibert) recently featured a guest post from the Kentucky Colonel at A Grown Up Marriage entitled Wives Who Are Sexually Refused.  

Julie Sibert has also published on her own site a post called Wives Who Want More Sex. And Aren’t Getting It. 

The Marriage Bed (Paul Byerly) has an extensive post covering this subject at Spouse Won’t Have Sex. 

I found an interesting post from Good Women entitled Sex: I Want It More Than My Husband, which details how a woman with a sex drive stronger than her husband’s might feel. 

Some time ago, Christian Nymphos posted an article called Help! High Sex Drive!!! with some general tips about this situation. 

Dr. Dave Currie also piped in on this subject in the Power to Change website, with Help! My Husband Doesn’t Want Sex. 

Marriage Missions asked the question How Much Sex is Normal? because more and more wives are seeking sex therapy when their husbands have lost their drive. 

Sheila Wray Gregoire of To Love, Honor and Vacuum wrote 4 Reasons Your Husband Doesn’t Want to Make Love (added 9/14/11).

I posted my own thoughts at Hot, Holy & Humorous on how wives struggle when they want sex and hubby doesn’t in She Wants, He Doesn’t Want. 

Scan through the resources and see what you can glean from the wisdom here.  Certain articles may be more applicable to your situation than others.  The point is that you are not alone! Unfortunately, plenty of wives experience sexual rejection from their husbands.

God’s gift of sexuality is for a husband and a wife to mutually desire, please, and enjoy one another in physical intimacy that strengthens the relational bond between them.  It is not acceptable for one person to opt out of that plan.  If you vow to love and cherish, that includes physically as well.

Know that you are loved by God and He wants the best for you.  Try to get some answers.  Seek help.