100% agree. Women need to remember our wonderful role as a woman and the beauty of a body without being overexposed.

I don’t know what has changed in the last few decades, but it’s radical and scary. When a woman’s sexuality is a public thing, how can she enjoy it privately? When it’s a way of making money, how can it be a way of making love?

It’s hard to know someone’s past, their heart, their motives – which is why I looked up the histories of women who pose for porn instead of assuming. However, posing for and viewing porn are actions themselves which do not benefit anyone involved. Porn does wreck your ability to engage in healthy sex with your spouse; God’s Word and studies are clear on that. It is not a benign industry. And I am certainly not opposed to men admiring beauty, but the porn world isn’t about beauty but rather sexual titillation. Unfortunately, I hear from wives whose own beauty is largely ignored because their husbands are engaged in looking at porn images instead.

I do pray that we can help one person at a time. Looking to Jesus as an example, he reached out to those who were misguided and hurting, but he was very harsh on the leaders who misled and abused others. The porn industry giants have a lot to answer for.

Thank you both for commenting.

Porn, like money, is neither good or evil. It is the ACTIONS of those who participate that determines its use for good or evil.

Many women and men alike are broken, addicted, abused and mistreated. Porn is not the culprit. For whatever reason, if they choose porn as a way of life, then my dear, perhaps they were hurting long before.

If you want get to the root of the problem, then place blame accordingly…the mindset. If you want to change the world, then try helping one person at a time without ill or misplaced judgement.

And yes, J, I think your analysis is right on. And IAAMM, if you don’t mind me saying so, there are some things that we DO have to judge. Saying “I’m not in a position to judge” when girls are being mistreated and abused, and when men are being led down a path that will make real intimacy almost impossible for them, is exactly the sort of thing we HAVE to judge.

I make no apologies for my view on porn. It is not just wrong; it is evil. That does not mean that the men who are lured to watch it or the women who are lured to act in it are evil. But its effects are evil, and we need to spread the word.

So many women and men are broken over the one thing. We need to stop saying, “I’m not in a position to judge”, and we need to stand up and say: porn wrecks your ability to respond in real life to a real person. Porn steals your sense of spiritual intimacy in sex. Porn steals your self-worth. Porn makes you live in shame. I hope that’s clear enough!

Sheila from To Love, Honor and Vacuum!

“They say that Satan’s biggest strategy when it comes to lust is to get single people to have sex before they are married…and those same people to stop having sex once they get married.”

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