Comments on: Creating an Intimacy Timeline https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Tue, 13 May 2014 01:57:29 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.4 By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1393 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 18:17:16 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1393 In reply to Anonymous.

Coming up on Monday is my response to women being the higher drive partner. It happens. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1387 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 22:28:35 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1387 Omg, I can relate with what that lady said. I kept myself before marriage mostly because of guilt and years of self imposed self control. My hubby on the other hand, was quite promiscous.Now we’ve been married 3months and where I expected unbridled passionate sex, I’m left disappointed. I keep wondering if I should have engaged in some before we wedded? Worse, I’m also pregnant which means it would only decline and get worse. We are very much in love and he is the Man of my dreams but I feel he’s had his own share of passionate sex and doesn’t feel the need to carry on as much. And me? At 25, I want it all the time. I yearn for him at night, and during the day I just stare lustfully at my husband. Wondering why he doesn’t want it as much as I do? I’m frustrated.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1371 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:21:53 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1371 In reply to Greg.

Thanks, Greg!

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1370 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 22:21:38 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1370 In reply to Anonymous.

First of all, I want to say that you are NOT alone. I had several women in my last post asking what to do when their sex drive is much higher than their hubbies’. Second, because this is such a common topic, and quite frankly it’s often hard to find other women friends who will relate or sympathize, I will be addressing it NEXT MONDAY. I don’t want to put you off, but I do want to give this issue fair and full treatment. I hope you’ll hang in there and check back.

On a side note, boy am I going to be praying for God’s wisdom! I know you — and others — are hurting, not so much because you can’t get that physical release (which is what sex-hungry hubbies also get accused of at times), but because you want that emotional intimacy in your marriage. My heart goes out to you.

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1369 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 21:19:30 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1369 My husband and I are having a problem in our sex life. I think it’s serious, and he thinks it’s no big deal. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he gets very angry at me, and it causes him to close up and not talk about it. I am a very sexual person, and really doesn’t put very much importance on it. We are newly weds so I was expecting a very active sex life. He is a wonderful man in every sense, but when it comes to sex, I am starving! He accused me of making sex the focus of everything. I don’t believe that at all, but he makes me feel dirty for wanting it. Everything is good in our marriage until bedtime. He wants to watch a movie or go right to sleep, and I am lying beside him dying to feel his body and feeling so undesirable to him. We love each other very much, but I go to bed very depressed every night. I’m sure he would want no part of counseling on sexuality because he thinks I have a problem with thinking sex is more important than anything. I don’t know what to do.

]]> By: Greg https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1339 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 21:54:15 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1339 This is an excellent idea, as it provides both a neutral and informative visual explanation for each spouse. I can see where it would also be a great springboard for initiating conversation and understanding.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1338 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 17:31:57 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1338 In reply to Marisa.

Thanks, Marisa! Had to look up TFS, but now I’m on board. You’re welcome. 🙂

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1337 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 17:31:07 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1337 In reply to John Wilder.

I agree that churches historically get a bad grade in this subject. However, I am encouraged by the marriage and sexuality ministries I’ve seen cropping up in recent years. Our resources and willingness to speak have multiplied lately. There are indeed positive messages about sex in the Bible. Hey, God created this act!

As to Christian books on sexuality, I have read the one you mention and many others. I tend to glean from books — take what I think is useful and not worry about what I disagree with. Of course, I want my own reasoning to be based on scripture, so that’s where I turn as the definitive source.

Titus 2 is a wonderful reminder for us to take our mentoring roles seriously. Thanks, John.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1336 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 17:27:26 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1336 In reply to Sis.

Gotta love the mid-life jump, Sis! Enjoy.

]]> By: Marisa https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/12/creating-an-intimacy-timeline/#comment-1335 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 17:01:49 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=116#comment-1335 What a fabulous idea and great way to get a visual of where things are at. TFS!

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