Comments on: He Doesn’t Wanna, But I Do! Help for Higher Drive Wives https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Tue, 12 Nov 2019 19:17:10 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.4 By: When Your Sex Life Is Under Time Pressures | Hot, Holy & Humorous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-17681 Mon, 26 May 2014 23:29:52 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-17681 […] temporarily getting less frequent sex than you desire? (For permanent issues, check out Help for Higher-Drive Wives and Two Words Your Higher-Drive Spouse Needs to […]

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-2561 Mon, 08 Oct 2012 21:47:25 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-2561 For us, it was as simple as changing the time of day. My wife’s sex drive is much higher than mine, and when approached in the evening after a long day, I had very little interest. But when we were doing the dishes together after dinner and I could see that she was not wearing panties, all kinds of wonderful fireworks occurred (right there in the kitchen)! Sometimes all it takes is a glance at a different time of day or in a different situation. We were guests on our friends fairly small power boat, and my wife asked for help with something in the bathroom and before I inew what she was up to, I was receiving pleasure that has kept me coming back. But eager wives–you absolutely, positively have to change the “time and place” if night time has grown into a staleroutine! I don’t know if any of these will work for you, but my wife has totally succeeded in getting me to think a lot more about sex as she has focussed on oral sex and daytime sex. Just a thought–lt

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1455 Tue, 01 May 2012 13:14:00 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1455 Arrrgh! I’m very glad to see this issue addressed, but am still incredibly discouraged by the way it is often dealt with. The second article about being the brownie says that 1/4 of the time wives have the higher drive, which I’m reading as meaning that in 25% of marriages the woman has a higher drive. That is a substantial minority, yet when I watch Mark Gungor’s video I see him making a 15 second disclaimer that not all men have higher drives than their wives and spending the other 97% of the video making blanket statements that promote the misapprehension that all men think about sex all the time and that women just want to exist on some higher, non-sexual plain, or that we somehow just tolerate sex.
Having mismatched sex drives in a marriage is a very frustrating and hurtful situation, made so much worse by being constantly inundated with the idea that we are somehow abnormal because I have a higher drive than my husband.
Growing up in our culture I came to believe the myth that men thought about and wanted sex all the time. So when I got married and discovered this wasn’t the case I could not help but internalize the idea that it was my fault. I KNOW there is nothing wrong with me! I KNOW my wonderful husband has challenges, some which can be overcome and some which we have to live with. However, when you’ve been indoctrinated with a belief your whole life, it’s dang hard to overcome it. It just makes me sad (and a little mad) that we can never escape the erroneous ideas about men and women and their sex drives.
Thanks for letting me vent 🙂

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1439 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:56:54 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1439 Gungor Link

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1438 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 20:37:16 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1438 In reply to Anonymous.

Just worked for me. Did you try highlighting the URL, right click, then open link? I’ll search YouTube for it.

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1433 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 20:59:11 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1433 The link doesn’t work =( is it on youtube?

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1432 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 19:09:07 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1432 In reply to Dave.

Sorry, just saw your request but noticed J found it for you. Hope you enjoyed it. All his videos are worth watching.

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1428 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 18:07:30 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1428 For those who have asked, I looked up Mark Gungor’s video referenced above. It’s about Stinking Thinking regarding men’s (typical)interest in sex. I thought it was pretty good, so here you go: http://www.lovemarriageandstinkingthinking.com/stinking-thinking/interested-in-sex/

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1426 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 17:26:57 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1426 In reply to Dave.

I’m looking for that video but there is so many! Can u pin point it?

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2012/04/23/he-doesnt-wanna-but-i-do-help-for-higher-drive-wives/#comment-1420 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 00:55:51 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=113#comment-1420 In reply to Dave.

Agree completely. When I read comments like Anonymous at 11:31 a.m. I can’t help but wonder….where were you 25 years ago!!!!!! LOL! And for those who are not familiar with Mark Gungor’s “we hate you” line, go to YouTube and watch his marriage videos. He is hilariously on target.

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