Although I’m not proud of it, I have seen multiple guys naked in the past, including my fiance. It wasn’t awkward whatsoever.

I’ve heard my friends say things about how their wedding night was awkward coming out of the bathroom to see their new husband naked, etc.

I think for myself, being seen naked wasn’t awkward because it was a natural thing. You start making out, you get aroused, pieces of clothing start coming off, etc. At the end of the day, I know my fiance loves me and I know he loves my body even more than I do -there’s nothing awkward in that. I can rest in knowing that he doesn’t see me as flawed, but beautiful.

Please don’t think that I’m saying seeing each other naked before marriage is ok, but just that I have absolutely no fears about THAT being awkward on our wedding night. Based on what my friends have told me and my own experience with this, although I could be totally wrong, it’s my opinion that if it’s super awkward, that must come from some sort of combo of insecurity, lack of communication prior, or perhaps just way built up expectations.

Megan,
I totally relate to your comment. I was shocked the first time I saw my husband without clothes!! I was a 24 year old virgin when we got married, and while I knew general shape and size to expect from science class, I was shocked at how uneducated and surprised I was by what I actually saw! Took about 15 seconds to get used to it and figure it all out though 😉

Same for us Sea Monkey.. he didn’t finish after an hour and a half we gave up 🙁 a marathon on the most tiring day of my life was not what I had been expecting. He was embarrassed and went to bed facing away from me 🙁

Yes, I was in a lot of pain the first several times we had sex. I remember crying when we were having sex because it hurt so badly, and he would be extremely concerned and want to stop, but I told him, “NO!! you have to keep going so my hymen will break completely and it will stop hurting!” haha. I had a physical scheduled soon after we started having sex (….yes, before marriage), and my doctor told me that sometimes it has to be hit from multiple directions, so I knew that it would eventually get better. And it did! “No pain, no gain” – what we have now was totally worth fighting through the pain I had when we started out.

I also was clueless the first time we had sex….I didn’t know what I expected to happen, but that wasn’t it!

Hey J, a little bit of info about lubricants, since I’ve seen you mention this more than once –

I don’t generally need lubricants, because my body is always* primed for sex and I have multiple orgasms every time. *However, there have been a couple of times that I DID need lubricant, not to mention that a few times when we first started having sex we thought it was something people were just supposed to do, and the most common brands hurt, burned, and ended up sticky and dry. I have since researched it and learned that the most common brands have ingredients in them that many people are allergic to, that often cause vaginal infections, and that can even cause cancer down the road. The best way to go is to get a paraben-free, glycerin-free lube. Also, the use of oils inside the vagina is also a bad idea, as that can cause vaginal infections as well. You have to be careful with the ph down there! 🙂

I remember very vividly being terrified at what in the world was going on down there?! Wish someone with some experience had warned me that would be perfectly normal.

Anonymous,

We were the same way… We actually didn’t “finish” that night because it was already really late (evening wedding) and I was exhausted and beginning to chafe. In fact, for the entire honeymoon a normal time was 45 minutes to well over an hour. Thank goodness for AstroGlide!!