Comments on: Am I Obsessed with Sex? No. Are You?

By: 5 (Random) Analogies for Sex in Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous

5 (Random) Analogies for Sex in Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous — Mon, 23 Jun 2014 12:00:33 +0000

[…] to use analogies to make points about sex in marriage. For instance, I’ve compared to sex to food, sports, and […]

By: What Euphemisms for Sex Do You Use? | Hot, Holy & Humorous

What Euphemisms for Sex Do You Use? | Hot, Holy & Humorous — Tue, 13 May 2014 02:18:20 +0000

[…] be surprised, since I’ve used analogies on this blog of eating at restaurants, starving vs. gluttony, and indulging in brownies. But here are a few sex euphemisms referring to […]

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 13 Jul 2012 18:02:26 +0000

Hi there J,
My wife and I have tried to make our wedding anniversary an away weekend.- No kids, house, sitters sort out both worries, pets bundled off to the kennels!

We have grown this time away, as the kids have got older to a long weekend, and generally its has been a time of great discussion about us, our family and time to just enjoy each other without wondering if the creaking springs are going to bring a smile to a closely situated teenager.

We have started to encourage our friends to partake of an "our time" weekend as a way of strengthening their marriages as well.

Maybe a little off topic, except that we obsessed with keeping "our" weekend on our calenders ....

By: Dave

Dave — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 16:55:18 +0000

In reply to G. I m with u on this one G. I used to email these posts to my spouse until one day I was asked, nay commanded to stop it since it was creating "undue pressure".

I am extremely starved. . . . oh help me God!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 14:31:49 +0000

We've been together for 12 years (marrried for 6), we have 3 Minis (under 3 years), Mr is a Marine reservist and works fulltime, Mrs is a fulltime momma and is in a relaunch of her her business.....we're starved!!
We try very hard to make time just to talk- text messages are helpful, you can complete a thought but its not like the beginning years!

Our church has a Sabbath evening service, we attend with the Minis and since we live an hour or so away we have great conversation in route and back. We try to watch a movie after the Minis are asleep and more often that ends with great sex....right now we cram all intimacy 48 hours. We're starving but we're together- the issue isn't one sided.

We have begun taking an anniversary vacation and although we don't want to rush these precious years, we're excited for the days of more independent children!

By: Paul Byerly

Paul Byerly — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 20:58:38 +0000

J – This is BRILLIANT! It’s the best, most balanced discussion of this topic I have ever seen.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 15:08:13 +0000

So, what’s a spouse to do if they find themselves in the sex- and/or intimacy-starved category and a little obsessed? Both spouses want a great relationship, but one seems a lot less excited about sex than the other.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 29 Jun 2012 12:32:54 +0000

In reply to Thoughts of a Rambling Man. And this is where I see a problem. What if he wouldn't get it later, like waiting for several months before getting any sex? How did he cope with his sexuality before marriage - was in continuous sin?

I think it's very subtle line to make the difference between "obssessed with sex" and "sex as an idol". And the definition from the Bible regarding idolatry has nothing to do with starving or other instinctual needs.

How do you discern if sex in marriage has become an idol?

By: G

Fri, 29 Jun 2012 04:16:02 +0000

This is another one of those posts that those of us starving are nodding our heads in a strong North-South direction but sadly, those that need to read and understand it likely never will read nor understand it.

It makes me sad.

By: A Smiling Hubby

A Smiling Hubby — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 22:46:41 +0000

Dang J – how do you keep coming up with such GREAT topics and doing such a great job covering them? Keep up the great work.

This reminds me of what I read in one book. When sex is good in a marriage it makes up about 10-20% of the relationship. When sex is not going good, it tends to be 90% of the problem in the relationship.

It also reminds me of “the hugry dog syndrome” described at http://thewinonline.com/episode/hungry-dog-syndrome-part-1 and http://thewinonline.com/episode/hungry-dog-syndrome-part-2

Thanks again for your efforts to do good in the world by helping marriages!