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Hi J

I suppose I’m biased by my positive experiences with wine. We saved sex til the wedding night… and spent a big chunk of our honeymoon touring the Napa Valley, LOL.

Perhaps a woman would be insulted if her hub only wanted her after a glass or two. But men don’t feel that way. Men have known for centuries that wine gets a woman in the mood, and far from being upset, have gladly exploited this fact. Indeed, with the stresses of modern life, opening a bottle of wine may be the ONLY way she’ll be able to forget about laundry, dusting, tomorrow’s homeschool assignment, etc., long enough to get into the mood. Unlike men, women have REAL trouble letting all that stuff “go”, and the disinhibitory effect of alcohol can really help.

(As I noted on Sheila’s blog, women tend to overdo the housework at the expense of marital relations, hence, the appeal of 50 Shades of Grey is that, “if she’s tied to the bed, she can’t do any needless dusting!”. Well… alcohol has the same effect, it helps her forget the housework for an hour or so, and a much stronger biblical case can be made for wine than for S&M).

Obviously I’m not advocating alcoholism. But in terms of long term health, moderate drinkers do live a bit longer than total abstainers.

“Everyday”? Wow. (Lucky hubby.) I agree that more frequent sex can cause a greater desire for…sex! When wives ask how often they should have sex, I say at least once a week; otherwise, your body gets acclimated to not having it. It would be like trying to do aerobics every two weeks; it wouldn’t feel good. Thanks for sharing, momma-lana!

Your point is wonderful, Brandy–especially that you may need to work with your doctor to find the right meds for whatever is ailing you + your sex drive. Too many people think it’s an either-or proposition when there are often alternatives. Great tip.

While it would be tempting to just indulge in a glass of wine or more to get things going, that isn’t a healthy option, especially long-term. It’s not a good idea to link sex and alcohol each time. Personally, I would start to wonder if my spouse only wanted me when he was under the influence–not very complimentary. Alcohol does decrease inhibition, so that statement is telling. Thanks to you both.

SHEET MUSIC is one of the most often recommended books about Christian sexuality from readers. I also think it was quite good. Marla Traviano also has a good book about wives and sex, and of course Sheila Gregoire’s recent Good Girl’s Guide book is wonderful. Thanks so much for the tips, Gaye!

I keep hearing this now. I had no idea way back when I was on oral birth control. I did eventually get off (for other reasons) and loved using the diaphragm instead. Thanks for the advice, J!

Thanks, Lisa. This is exactly what I was hoping–that people would share and help others!