Thanks for taking the time to tell your story in hopes of helping someone else. How wonderful that you and your hubby found your way! Blessings.

There’s a wide range of boudoir photography, from an artistic black-and-white photo with a peek of the shoulder and a sexy grin to a come-get-me pic of a naked derriere or breasts. Part of it depends on what we’re talking about here.

This wasn’t popular when I was getting married, so I’m a little unclear (even after some research) if this is something presented AFTER the wedding. Such sexualized pictures should not be thrown at a guy until he can have some of the goodies you’re tempting him with–after the vows are said. But as a wedding gift, this might be fun for a couple.

Remember a few things when taking pics: (1) You’d better have a GREAT plan for keeping them private. You don’t want your in-laws helping you move one day and suddenly they come upon the boudoir photo of you in your hubby’s nightstand. (2) The photo is a teaser of the real thing. The poses are fun, but it’s the action that matters.

Speaking of which, your hubby will still love your body even as it changes with age if your sexual relationship is a good one. Looking at a boudoir photo of yourself later in life would probably be no different than looking at a clothed photo; sure, you’ll both look younger in those early photos, but with age and experience you have a deeper appreciation for one another.

And yeah, I wouldn’t pose sans clothing with a photographer I didn’t know. I’d probably set up a self-timer on my camera or find a close same-gender friend to take shots for me. That said, I know that photographers can be very professional about it.

Congrats and best wishes!

Another great piece J. You continue to speak to marriages and especially to married women on what to do in order to keep the fire of their marriages burning.

Adultery in NOT excusable in any circumstance but I never cease to get amazed by the number of married women that push their men firmly into the hands of other women.

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We weep with you over the fire your friend is just beginning to walk through. Her wayward husband will eventually figure out that he’s destroying an excellent thing, and exchanging it for a not-even-mediocre thing… they always do. Whether they admit it OR NOT, they almost always figure it out in the dark of night, when the voices are all screaming in their heads. He’s in a fantasy bubble, and as soon as real life pops that bubble, he’s in for a bad ride.

Your friend needs to decide whether she is going to fight for her marriage, or let him walk away. And once she decides, she shouldn’t be wishy-washy about it. The bottom line for her is that HE is choosing this sin, not she. She is not at fault, nor will she have to give an account to the Lord for HIS actions.

I will say this though… adultery is rarely as simple as he/she decided to go out and get some on the side. If she has been guilty of things that could have SWAYED his decision to do this, then she needs to repent, make things right with the Lord, and WALK ON in Christ. But again, I reiterate that this decision to sin in adultery is COMPLETELY ON HIS SHOULDERS.

Knowing from our personal experience that healing after adultery IS ENTIRELY POSSIBLE, I of course would be counciling your friend to fight for her marriage, in her prayer closet. But she ultimately is the one who needs to make that decision.

I intend to keep praying for this man… that his fantasy bubble would come crashing in on the rocks VERY quickly, and he would pop his head up and say “What the heck am I doing????”

Jesus said we would know what’s going on by watching the signs around us. Looking at the ugly PC (“politically correct”) climate in what used to be my beloved America, I believe we are truly in the final stretch of time before Jesus makes his triumphant return.

People, when the King of Kings cracks the sky and makes his appearance, do we really want to be caught in adultery by Him?

REALLY???