Comments on: Is Sex Work?

By: J

Sat, 29 Sep 2012 02:24:47 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. Comments like these break my heart, and they are not terribly uncommon. My advice to someone who has an unwilling spouse is to take care of yourself by investing in your faith, emotional health, and happiness. Find a counselor, mentor, or close friend to help you sort through your disappointment. Most of the time in a situation like this, there is something going on with your spouse that has little to do with you--perhaps depression, lack of desire, etc. Sometimes, the spouse will come around when you least expect it. Thankfully, I hear from quite a few couples as well who say something like: It all turned around after 5, 10, 20, or even 30 years, and now we're happier than ever. Praying that comes to you.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 28 Sep 2012 17:42:50 +0000

None of any of this really matters when you have a mate that doesn’t really understand or care……friends (maybe) withOUT benefits. I keep reading to get ideas and some hope, but it is all too depressing.

By: Paul Byerly

Paul Byerly — Thu, 27 Sep 2012 20:08:07 +0000

There are many things I enjoy that are work. My garden is a lot of hard work, but I enjoy it a great deal.

I want plenty of good fruit from my marriage, and my sex life, so the work is a joy!

By: Jenny

Jenny — Thu, 27 Sep 2012 19:09:14 +0000

Hm, I wonder about the “being better at it” argument, because all of us (men and women) get better at it with practice. When my guy and I first started out, we were both virgins and we weren’t so great! We enjoyed it, we had fun, it was intimate, we both had orgasms; but our technique wasn’t exactly top-notch, and we didn’t know one another’s bodies completely. He had heard such-and-such from the guys, and they said it worked on every woman – but guess what, that stuff didn’t work for me! My nipples and clitoris are extremely sensitive, and too direct contact was far from arousing – it was more uncomfortable. As for me, I had no idea what the heck I was supposed to do when I was on top, and it took some coaxing from him for me to even try because I felt like I couldn’t measure up to the experienced women in porn videos that he watched when he was in high school. But with practice, exploring one another, and experimenting together, I have to say that we are both darn good at it, and our sex life is amazing! He’s incredible in bed and knows my body completely, he knows just how to touch me; and I’m the same way with him. So the “not being good at it” thing only lasts for awhile – with enough practice that won’t be an issue anymore. And what a fun thing to practice! 😀

We’ve dealt with health issues in the past as well, and found ways around them so that we could still enjoy our intimate life. Fortunately time isn’t an issue – we don’t have kids, so anywhere and anytime works for us!

By: Lauren Goetze

Lauren Goetze — Thu, 27 Sep 2012 17:25:10 +0000

Thank you so much for having this blog. I just recently got married (June 2012) and it is sometimes hard to find good, CLEAN, sexual advice on the internet. My husband and I waited until marriage and I am so glad we did. We saved ourselves for each other and I am so thankful for that! Thanks again for answering questions that I have had, but have been reluctant to ask because I feel a little inexperienced (which is a good thing!). Keep it coming!