Congratulations your upcoming nuptials! Blessings for a beautiful wedding night and many years of bliss. I am saying a prayer for your marriage and for your husband to follow God more intently.

Sex in marriage is fabulous!

How’s that?

Seriously, though, relax. You know this man, you enjoyed discovering all kinds of things about him during courtship, and now you get to discover each other physically, fully, intimately. Remember that you love each other and committed for life, and then take your time to enjoy each other. At the end of the day, it isn’t all you’ve read that will make the difference; it’s how you approach each other with a desire to please, experience, and revel in one another.

Something to look forward to? Exploration, closeness, a lifetime to learn how to pleasure one another, orgasm, simultaneous orgasm, the just-ours feeling of sex together, imagining God smiling at the thought of your marriage bed honoring Him.

Congrats! Blessings to you and your fiance.

Congratulations! Yes, your “hoo-ha” is a bit sore at first, but your body does acclimate to using those muscles. Here are a few ideas for what to do during sex. Use any or all of them.

* Continue to touch him. Stroke his shoulders, torso, derriere, whatever you can reach.
* Kiss his body wherever your lips can land a tender touch.
* Grab him. Yes, grab hold of his hips, derriere, or thighs to let him know you are enjoying it and want more of what he’s doing.
* Massage his testicles, if you can reach them. Be gentle, of course. But some husbands report loving hanging their “balls” touched during intercourse.
* Touch yourself. Admittedly, if this is your first rodeo, you may not be ready to take that bull by the horns. However, stimulating your own clitoris while your husband is thrusting can honestly bring a great deal of pleasure and possibly orgasm. Moreover, a lot of husbands like seeing their wives get into their own pleasure.
* Move your pelvis. Shifting your pelvis into a different angle can provide different sensations, and creating a bit of a rhythm may be nice. However, if he’s got the rhythm already going, don’t get off his beat.
* Squeeze your vaginal muscles. Basically, you’re doing a Kegel exercise on him. Don’t know what a Kegel is? Look it up. It’s simple, but the experts will do a better job of explaining how.
* Talk or make noise. Express your love, delight, and desire in whatever way you are comfortable with. You can simply say “I love you” or, if you feel so moved, scream, “Baby, you rock my world!”

Does that help? Don’t try to fit them all into one session. Your guy might get a little confused. :S Blessings for a beautiful marriage and a lifetime of lovemaking!

This may be a little late, since it has been a couple of weeks since your post…but, I finally figured out after baby #3 that it was less painful for me the first few times after the birth, if I was the one on top. That way I was in full control of depth, angle, speed-everything. Sooo much better that way. Now that I have found Coconut Oil for lubrication, I would also suggest that too, if needed.

For Him – http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0002607.cfm
For Her – http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0002593.cfm

I would also add to be honest about how much you miss your husband. I think it helps him to know that you are still thinking about making love even though you are not cleared yet by the doctor and really it is best to wait until you are cleared because you will heal better etc. Still give him as much attention as you can and do things together (touch him cuddle him! cuddle him and talk to him or whatever suits your personal style of loving so he knows you haven’t forgotten him) (it could be interrupted time but I think normally a husband wants you do be a good mother too ~ it seems to me!)

I am a mom of several children ~ just so you know!