Comments on: My Sex Life Isn’t Perfect

By: Debi Walter

Debi Walter — Sun, 21 Oct 2012 01:21:24 +0000

Hahaha!! You got me good on your interpretation of a Song of Songs poetry - NOT. I loved everything about this post, J. It was clever, honest, funny and did I mention honest? Being anonymous sure is helpful when writing with such openness, thank you for how you serve all of us in this way.
I think I'm going to chuckle myself to sleep. :-)
Blessings,
Debi

By: Christy

Christy — Sat, 20 Oct 2012 16:42:07 +0000

Ahhh yes….the perfect sex life. What is that again? Ha! Our biggest struggle is probably time. My husband does not have normal hours or days and so even though I stay home with our girls it is very hard sometimes to come together. Just keeping the verbal communication going is hard when you are apart for days at a time.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 19:36:22 +0000

Try farting while he's giving you oral. Yep, (shyly slips hand up) happened to me. And he's farted, too....and burped while giving me oral. During one of my pregnancies, I had all I could do not to barf on him every time we made love during my first trimester. There you have it. It's part of being married and why Hollywood sex scenes are so bogus.

I actually like my body more now after 7 pregnancies than I did when we got married. I feel and look like a woman and hubby adores my soft Marilyn Monroe curves. (Wish I had her bosoms, though, but we can't all be perfect.)

Our sex life isn't as vulnerable and mutual as it could be. Working on that one.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 04:48:09 +0000

Hehehe, J, I enjoy your blog in general…but this post was so deliciously hilarious. I might just have to jot down that rhyme and slip it into my Bible at Song of Solomon. Just for smiles.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 18:30:32 +0000

Yep, been there with the fart – it’s happened to both of us. Nothing you can do but laugh and keep going. Wish we would see that in a movie occasionally.

By: Sara with an H

Sara with an H — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 18:10:02 +0000

Hahahahahah! I was literally laughing out loud reading this post! The fart made me laugh because that has totally happened to us!! And it was early on in our marriage! And ya know what? We giggled about it, and just kept going. Yeah, there was a little embarrassment, but mostly, it was just hilarious. I think in some ways it makes it more memorable because its an inside joke only you two share. “Remember that time? Teehee”

By: Amy R

Amy R — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 15:33:23 +0000

I liked the “fart” mention. The other night when my hubby and I were intimate I had a tough time controlling my sniffling since I had a head cold. I didn’t feel bad, just lots of congestion. We laughed about it because it was so not sexy. But after 13 years of marriage, it is more important to us to be intimate than worry about awkward moments. Our kids are older (elementary) so timing can get difficult but we make the best of it (even it takes place in the closet or something while they are out playing in the living room). Sometimes sneaking around makes you feel young again! Love your posts, J!

By: Pearl

Pearl — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 15:28:44 +0000

Hi, J! I'm nearly back on the radar....

We often have very similar conversations. I wish we'd embraced the sex scheduling earlier in our marriage. But, earlier in our marriage we had a harder time talking about sex outside of the bedroom.

I think when you start blogging about your insights and what has worked for your marriage, you are put to the test more often. Satan taking notice, maybe?

Marriage ain't never gonna be perfect.