Comments on: The Small Stuff Can Drive You Crazy

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 12:20:39 +0000

The Worcestershire sauce in the room … I love it 🙂 One of the biggest “small things” that God has given me an opportunity to overlook is that my wife never puts anything away. Its maddening sometimes, but I have to keep reminding myself they are small things. Several years ago we attended a marriage event where Gary Chapman was the speaker, and part of his message was just on this subject. He related how early in his marriage he was upset that his wife would leave cabinet doors and drawers open and was not shy about telling her. However, after years of marriage he came to realize that she was not going to start closing doors and drawers from his nagging, so he learned to let it go and just close them himself. I was so impressed by his story that I took the same attitude in my marriage, and I am so glad I did. Do I do this perfectly? well no, but then again I am, like the rest of us, a work in progress.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 23:21:32 +0000

I heard a story an elderly widow told....
She was at a Ladies Conference and heard several women complaining about this or that about their husbands.
She got up at spoke how much she would love to hear her husband snore one more time, or how much she would love the opportunity to pick up his socks that he didn't bother to put in the proper place.
Point: Men shouldn't be so thoughtless, and women have the right to vent, but in the big picture of life...when you have buried the love of your life, you'll miss all the daily annoying things he did. You will long for socks to pick up, or Worcestershire sauce in the wrong place...because that would mean your love was still with you.
Just something to think about..
And, I'm a wife, and have plenty to complain about, and do so from time to time, but when I catch myself complaining, I think about this sweet elderly lady.

By: Danica

Danica — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 23:10:09 +0000

I am a mental health therapist who works with kids. I feel like I spend all day telling the kids to stop and take some deep breaths before they react to situations that annoy them, because most of the time, the situations don’t seem nearly as bad once we’ve cleared our head. When I started applying that to my marriage, (we’re in our 20s and have just been married a little over a year), I found it really helps! I have a tendency to see a small thing like the Worcestershire sauce, and before I know it, I’ve blown it up in my head into something way bigger than it is, and will sometimes start a fight about it. If, after seeing the Worcestershire sauce in the wrong spot, I stop for a second, take some deep breaths, and remind myself of something my husband has done FOR me or something I love about him, I almost always feel my mood switch from upset and hurt to overjoyed that I get to be married to this amazing man!! Yeah, he often forgets little things, but he so much more often remembers little and big things, and life is so much happier when I focus on those!! I do address the little things sometimes, but it’s always from a positive perspective, coupled with a compliment, when we are both in good moods.

By: Bev G

Bev G — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 16:14:44 +0000

This is a good word, especially now that we are in the holiday season. Sometimes we get so hung up on how we want things that we forget about being that kind and loving person God wants us to be. I have been reading Karen Ehman’s – From Chaos to Calm 5 day Christmas challenge. It is amazing how the little things can pile up and become the CHAOS! Let go of the control and let God guide and direct you EVEN WITH THE DECORATING!!! My goal this holiday season is fun, laughter, peace and most of all to feel the hands of God on my shoulders during the whole season.

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 11 Nov 2012 13:02:54 +0000

Excellent advice!

By: Joshua Belyeu

Joshua Belyeu — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 13:51:23 +0000

The first thing I thought of when reading the headline of this article had nothing to do with the refrigerator. Once I finished, I just started chuckling, realizing my brain went way out there with this kind of topic.

By: Working Mom

Working Mom — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 02:56:21 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. you said it girl!

By: Christy

Christy — Sat, 10 Nov 2012 01:11:34 +0000

I think this little lesson rings true for me when let’s just say my hormones are out of whack. But I swear my husband chews louder during this time of month and it’s like nails on a chalk board. Instead of getting mad it has kinda become a joke in our house and he has enlisted the children to “help” annoy me when I am fighting the uglies. Ha!

By: J

Fri, 09 Nov 2012 16:41:16 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. Oh my goodness! Thanks for telling me. I don't know where it went! It got swiped somehow. I'll figure it out.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 09 Nov 2012 16:13:47 +0000

J, what happened to your blog list?