Comments on: Do You Dream about Others?

By: J

Mon, 26 Nov 2012 16:42:59 +0000

In reply to chrissy. Well, that made my day, Chrissy! And my day wasn't going that well so far. (Stupid internet.) What a challenge with young kids, but when you make that intimacy with your husband a priority, you will reap dividends in your marriage. With this attitude, your husband is blessed to have you as his wife. "A prudent wife is from the Lord" (Proverbs 19:14).

By: chrissy

chrissy — Mon, 26 Nov 2012 16:14:12 +0000

I love & truly enjoy this blog. My husband & I just celebrated our third anny. We have three beautiful children ages 2, 1 and 4 months. I love my husband A LOT and battle with my own insecurities, the last thing I ever think of is sex. And he thinks of it all the time. This blog has opened my eyes tremendously. I might not feel comfortable in my own skin, due to weight gain with 3 close proximity pregnancies, be he always tells me how sexy I am to him. And he is one sexy dude I must say. So I need to make some changes for us, as a married couple, that love one another. I want to be that old couple the grosses their kids out when they catch us “making out”!. God blessed me with him and my family and I want him to know that I am grateful. Time to start taking care of my marriage and with Him at my side anything is possible. Thank you for the motivation!! God bless!

By: Lifegal

Lifegal — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 14:10:52 +0000

Play some background worship or praise music while sleeping or even a sermon. That has a direct impact on your dreams positively. It has worked for me

By: Megan@DoNotDisturb

Megan@DoNotDisturb — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 13:42:14 +0000

I have struggled with dreams as well, though mine are of a more violent and disgusting nature. I have tried to really understand why but have never been able to pinpoint an exact reason. I have always told my husband and have actually asked him in the middle of the night to hold me and pray for me. Prayer has been the thing that makes me face the realities of the uninvited dreams with confidence that God has not left me alone and I do not need to be defeated, feel guilt or stand condemned. For me, secrecy breeds guilt over “how I could allow this to happen” rather than moving forward towards that which can be positive.
Megan

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 02:43:51 +0000

Another thing to try, which I do with my dd who has night terrors, is to recite scripture while falling asleep. I believe firmly that God’s word directs us both while we are awake and while we are sleeping. Find a couple of verses that speak to you and say them over and over as you are going throughout your day and then while you are drifting off. It certainly couldn’t hurt. 🙂

By: mommaof3

mommaof3 — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 16:48:31 +0000

First, i want to thank you for taking time to reply to my question. 🙂
Secondly, i want to clarify for those saying not to tell the hubby about the dreams…The reason i didnt hesitate to tell him is because 1)I dont keep anything from him, and 2)The dreams have NEVER involved sex, and have only involved sexual acts twice. normally it is just like i’m dating these guys. like we’re walking down the sidewalk holding hands. I feel that it is easier for me to try to move on from those dreams once i’ve told him about them.
Thirdly, I just wanted to say i too dream about tetris,sudoku, Flow or whatever other games I’ve been playing a lot. lol I’m glad i’m not the only one who dreams about video games! lol

By: Debi - The Romantic Vineyard

Debi - The Romantic Vineyard — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 15:10:21 +0000

J, what an excellent post from a much needed Christian perspective. I dream all the time! Sometimes they are troubling and other times they’re just silly. I usually remember every detail in full-color. There have been times when I’ve dreamt about my husband being with someone else romantically. I woke up mad at him. I told him all about it so he could pray with me. We have found that prayer is the best deterrent to these kinds of dreams. Praying together as husband and wife/one flesh really helps to strengthen the love and support needed to fight these kinds of battles together. And God promises where two or more are gathered in His name, He is right there. What a promise!

By: Pearl

Pearl — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 23:22:36 +0000

I, too, can attest to the truth of the Tetris study! Dreams fascinate and often frustrate me. I wish there was credibility to those Dream Dictionaries…But, it’s never that easy to understand the complex human psyche. Great post, J.

By: Louisa McFarland

Louisa McFarland — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 22:40:52 +0000

My husband and I have found that it helps to overcome these type of dreams if we do tell each other about them, and then also actively reinforce that we do not desire any body else. We have also found that you can control what happens in these dreams, you can make a choice during the dream to reject what is going on. It can take some practise and some times the dreams come back harder, but they are all overcomable (is that a word) in the end. My husband used to be addicted to porn and would regularly dream about other women, as he battled and over came both in the physical and dream lives, he stopped dreaming about others and started dreaming about me. BTW as he overcame porn I stopped being so worried about my body shape.

By: spiceandlove

spiceandlove — Mon, 12 Nov 2012 21:58:38 +0000

LOVE this post. I actually have struggled with my own dream life and shared it with my husband, but I often find that these troubling dreams come when our marriage is having difficulty. I shared it with my counselor who said that she believed it was my brain trying to concoct a way to cope with the stress I was feeling in my marriage. And I agree – prayer is one of the most effective ways to deal with it. I have also found I tend to have sexual dreams when I am “sex-hungry”, so to speak. So either at certain times in my cycle or when my husband & I have been apart too long.
Thanks for writing this!
themrs