Apparently so. Some women describe the sensation that way. Your best option is to make sure you use the bathroom before you have sex (which is often recommended anyway to prevent infections), and then you’ll know that your bladder is empty.

By the way, I know it sounds really gross and I’m not in favor of urinating on anyone during sex, but if you did leak some, it wouldn’t hurt him. So you might just let go and see what happens. The consistency of liquid is different, so you should be able to tell.

Best wishes!

She’s only does this when she’s on top and has already had a few O’s. She stimulates her clitoris. I end up wedged against the front wall (against the G-Spot) and penetrate deep enough to hit the A-spot. (Front wall, A-L-L the way in, BTW.)

It doesn’t happen every time, but when it does, WOW!

You discretely set the stage for her so she can play on it with total abandon. What if the stage isn’t the bed? Have available either a rectangular vinyl table cloth or vinyl shower curtain. Top that with perhaps a beach towel or something else for comfort. Then for the top layer use a shower curtain. Get the cloth type that hotels use. Make sure it has button holes for the hooks, not metal grommets. I would suggest the pads here also. The show curtain will only absorb so much before it becomes uncomfortable. This works well for floors, especially carpeted ones and rugs. It’s admittedly a little trickier for chairs and couches. I suppose it would work well on grass too. Can’t say for sure though. Just saying.

It may seem to lack romance going through such seemingly clinical preparations, but her lying there worrying about sheets and mattresses is a lot less romantic and certainly steals the thunder from her moment(s). Consider it a foreplay ritual you engage in. Don’t obsess about what you are doing at the time, but what the benefit is of doing it. Who know’s? You might have to change all the way down to the mattress when it’s over. That’s laundry I’d be more than pleased to change out for my wife.

Guy and gals, do yourselves a big favor if a)you are going to pursue FE or b)are already experienceing FE. Here are some smart approaches to the gush issue for sure and possibly the squirt issue too. I will go from the biggest to smallest solutions.

Buy a mattress cover that is fleece on vinyl like the vinly table cloths. Put the fleece up and the vinyl down for comfort. You will also not have to worry about soaking the mattress. On top of that, if you wish, put a thick padded mattress cover for further comfort if the fleece doesn’t breath well enough. Now comes the sheet. I sometimes put an over-sized, extra thick beach towel under the sheet from one side of the bed to the other across the strategic zone. You can save a lot of washing matched sheets if you buy two or three oversized flat sheets and “wrap” the mattress. Now you have one or two spares for a long session or a later repeat. You might think towels are now the answer. NO NO NO. They ARE absorbent, but they soak through. No protection for the sheet unless the FE is minimal and the towel is removed quickly. Who wants to deal with that so soon after?

Now, as unromantic as this sounds, I go to a medical supply store and buy two or three (remember the repeatability factor, can’t use them again until washed) incontincence pads. The size is about 32 X 24. We begin by placing this in the right spot before we even begin. I know this sounds, well, REALLY?(SIGH.), but if you want this to happen, or know it will, then, like Sir Walter Raleigh with his mythical coat over the puddle, “gracefully” prepare the bed for your wife. Don’t make a display of it. Just have it ready before she even enters the room. If she says anything, and she may not, relax her by saying you were concerned with her comfort. Period. Done. Nothing about not having to wash sheets or staining mattresses. Just let the initial discomfort comment die a quiet death. After all, you both know what may happen and you both want to pursue it anyway. So be let’s be adult about it and relax a little on the denial. I can tell you, after acknowledging what you both are about to do, it is much more fun doing it with wild abandon knowing whatever gets wet doesn’t matter. She doesn’t have to hold back and you can encourage her to “push” her way through each orgasmic overflow. Whether urine or FE, she won’t feel compelled to hold back and you can just keep on keep’n on. If the incontinence pad(s)gets soaked, fold it up, lay aside and throw more under her, or you if she is on top. You can keep a towel and damp wash cloths or wipes handy for body clean up as you go. At the end, wash the incontincence pad(s), maybe the sheet, and maybe the beach towel, then maybe the mattress pad, and then maybe wipe or wash the mattress cover. The point is, with this multi-layer approach, you can limit the inconvenient aftermath of some very great sex and not inhibit the total immersion of your wife into the experience. She can TOTALLY let go with no worries. Isn’t that what you want for her, AND you?

**deep breaths** **I’m normal**

I guess I need to keep a stack of towels handy…

So sorry for the delay in my response. I was on a bit of a blogging break and did a poor job of keeping up with those comments that needed responses.

Congratulations on 26 years! What a lovely accomplishment for you both.

From my research on this topic, that urge to urinate may indeed be your wife being on the verge of FE. Some women describe it that way. I suggest that your wife urinate before sex to empty her bladder (which is a good idea anyway to avoid infections). The issue may also be that the location of the Skene’s glands and bladder are so close that they may feel linked inside.

This may sound gross, and I am opposed to urinating on your partner as a goal of sexual play, but what if she went over that edge once and you found out? What’s the worst that could happen? That she peed on you? Yes, that’s a bit ick, but urine isn’t harmful. My point is that couples have unique experiences, and experimenting together is often the best way to figure things out (rather than trying to read umpteen sources). That’s an option, though certainly not something you should encourage if it makes you or her uncomfortable.

As to whether direct stimulation to the G-spot is needed, it doesn’t seem to be true. While the Skene’s glands may very well be the culprit here, female anatomy is such that indirect stimulation can be sufficient to bring on orgasm or FE. Finding your wife’s G-spot can be a challenge for many husbands, and some wives appear to have very small or difficult-to-reach G-spots, making this even more of a challenge.

One more thing: Focus on enjoying each other on your anniversary more than checking off a sexual act. You may not want to feel that pressure on your special day. If it happens, great! It’s a nice gift to want to give her, but if your wife is happy with the usual, fabulous intimacy with you, let that be. Many wives report enjoying sex without FE or orgasm; we often simply enjoy the closeness.

Best wishes!

Vaginally.