Comments on: Volunteer for Marital Intimacy Research Today

By: J

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 20:27:17 +0000

In reply to Lady K. Thanks, Lady K. I appreciate your kind comments.

I would suggest that you take a look at a recent post called My Husband Wants Me to Dress Like a Porn Star from Jolene Engle of Alabaster Jar. You do not have to watch porn "to keep the peace." I hope you can find ways to be sexually giving without enabling any sin on his part. My prayers are with you.

By: Lady K

Lady K — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 20:24:16 +0000

J, this is awesome. You’re a lifesaver. I’m so happy I came across your blog.

My husband is all about all things sex. If it weren’t for his faith… in Jesus… He’d be into all the wrong things. One example that he uses to justify reading and listening to audio related to sex is this: [edited out link] He subscribed to her audio podcast. There is some good info mixed in with her crass and vulgar show. I can’t stick with it when turning it on. It makes me want to puke! Also, he thinks it’s ok to watch vulgar movies that involve sex, example, porn… etc. In order to keep my marriage in a state of balance… on occasion I’ll watch with him. I’ve agreed to it occasionally just to keep peace. Once he’s had his fix for the time and we move on to lesser offensive mediums… it’s not bad. The adversary has him convinced it’s ok to do all that… I pray that GOD will take away the vulgarities of it all. Your post here is a great example of this. Thank you!

I’m using a bit of my anonymity here. I don’t want people to accident upon something I post and take it wrong… I love your blog!

By: Jay Dee - Sex Within Marriage

Jay Dee - Sex Within Marriage — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 21:11:23 +0000

Gah! You beat me to it! I was going to write about sex-labbing with your spouse!

By: Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

Fawn @ Happy Wives Club — Mon, 01 Apr 2013 10:52:57 +0000

My husband LOVES being my lab partner. And I can’t believe the sex studies you gave as an example. My goodness!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 30 Mar 2013 03:04:34 +0000

I think some research is actually conducted with the right motives–to help resolve real problems. But as you’ve noted, there’s an awful lot that’s sadly just a continuation of the Kinsey mindset.

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 18:20:51 +0000

My hubby and I were just laughing about this last week, discussing a documentary on babies in the womb that starts at the very beginning…he was like “who actually agrees to do this? And how many shots do they have to do? How many couples do they have to use to get all the shots they need?” So when I saw your post title I cracked up and forwarded it to him, said I think we need to definitely study more. He agreed it would be mutually beneficial. 😉

By: J

Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:57:15 +0000

In reply to Elizabeth@Warrior Wives. Oh my, I won't even begin to describe the study I saw in which a researcher simulated the bull's motion on a sow to study hog sexuality. (The ultimate purpose was to learn more about human sexuality, by the way.) That should definitely be in Mike Rowe's Dirty Jobs list. LOL.

I think we do need to get some information and troubleshoot our sex lives sometimes, but couples can start looking more to what a "sexpert" says they should do in their bedroom than what their own spouse desires and enjoys. Thanks, Elizabeth!

By: Elizabeth@Warrior Wives

Elizabeth@Warrior Wives — Thu, 28 Mar 2013 20:29:03 +0000

Oh. Wow. Are those actual research studies? You’ve got to be making them up!! That’s just…crazy.

I think that so many couples rush to books and blogs and other people to try to figure out what they *should* be doing in the bedroom when you’re absolutely right…the best place to do research and acquire information is in your own bedroom with your own husband. Granted, some people need a little outside help, but for the most part, we could all benefit from starting out alone together.