I totally agree with you! If it were not for blogs such as this, I would never have had an awakening, or known what was “ok” as far as staying in biblical guidelines. I think more godly marriage classes and retreats are needed to help in this area. We just need to know what is ok sometimes!

Preach it, sister!

Thankfully, I do think more Christians are speaking out and reclaiming sexuality as part of God’s plan. Still, we haven’t reached where we should be.

The church needs to be upholding all of Godly sexuality and telling young people about the entirety of God’s plan for sex. They need to know all of the many reasons to save sex for marriage. “You might get pregnant” is not enough of a discouragement. They need desperately to know what God’s plan is for sex in marriage and why it is worth waiting for. And they need mentors who can testify to this and help them with practical advice.

We’ve become so scared to talk about sex that we end up giving a superficial and ineffective message or, in some cases, the wrong message (such as that sex is dirty or bad). We don’t do our young people any favors when we do that. And we don’t do our married couples any favors either when we give the impression that sex is totally unrelated to spirituality, that the church has nothing to say on the matter, and that it’s not something to talk about with other Christian couples.

It’s humorous and sad at the same time.

Usually the next question is “How do you know if you’re good or not?!”

Fact is I don’t. All I know is I’m good for my wife, and that’s all I care.

Keep up the fight. There is hope. His name is Jesus.

And thanks for the mention.

I suppose it has never occurred to her that her desire might be a healthy thing? Maybe it’s not because she was poisoned, maybe she is feeling a true and valid desire. Maybe she has figured out something much of the world has not: sex is better when you limit it to one person you really care about.