My brain would have turned to mush too at one point but I must say I am blown away by how much better the sex is if orgasm is not a part of it. Try it before you knock it. You kinda learn after bit when to call it quits but truly it is lovemaking not just having sex. All I cam say is you try it and you will find without the orgasm you will be on the “always on position” and that in itself is really special. The bonding that happens will cause much of the stuff between you to go away. There is way to much pressure to have that big o and it is not sustainable for most on the long term. Nor is it the best for your relationship. About time between orgasms. That is not a one size fits all and you can always go back to the old method and you will often at first because sex takes longer when you do not rush it you lubricate better and you will get mighty turned on. I still crave orgasms but find that when i do its shuts off my desire and God intended for that to happen as most men and some women would destroy themselves and there marriages with the type of sex that is always trying to up the ante a notch to a hotter orgasm. This is not wise as the restraint is the secret of all great art and i say all great sex. Think about it.

Note to readers: I get a little nervous when someone promotes a specific product on the blog! I’m not really here for that. But I did look up the Liberator thing here. Seemed okay. So there you go.

Some good advice here. I like the breast play idea.

But honestly? 2-4 weeks between orgasms? My brain is turning with fudge just at the thought of that. I know the theory behind it, but I have to respectfully disagree on that one. Glad you and your mate are having a marvelous intimate experience even after 30 years! Go you.

What works well for messy sex is a Liberator love throe that you can purchase from romance between the lines for about $80. This is a water proof throe that will slurp up the results of juicy lovemaking and in the morning you can throw it in the washer. No changing of bedding needed! Love away.

This one one hit home for us both 2 and 3 years ago. We were diagnosed with both having fertility issues then a year later told without drastic reproductive therapy that we would never have biological children. There is something about finding out that your body does not do what it is supposed to therefore sex will not result in procreation that can ruin sex. Things happen that don’t always put you in the mood. Sometimes you just have to do it. It may involve tears and you may not feel like it but you have to make that first step.

I love this!! Most of the time I cant even enjoy myself for worrying about (1)locking the door, (2)grabbing a towel to put under me, (3) worrying about making too big a yucky mess (4)getting the mess up so I or my hubby actually cuddle (which we never do)(5) running to bathroom to clean myself up(get infections easily was told to pee afterward).How could anyboy relax with all that to think about- I hate going through so much laundry! I think I’m going to invent a sturdy shower table for LM!