Thank you both for your replies. It is nice to hear a man’s perspective on this too.
I do believe my husband when he says I don’t take too long…he often says, “you take just the right amount of time.” But still, there is always that little voice in the back of my head telling me it’s taking too long, I think that’s just a woman thing.

My husband is up at 3am and home by 4pm, but with two teenagers in the house (my two boys from my first marriage) it makes jumping into bed late afternoon a little hard. We have been trying at least once during the week to have me come in when he goes to bed at 7pm and “take my evening shower”. 😉 One time I told my youngest son I was going to take a quick shower and about 30 min later he sent me a text asking if I had gone to bed! Well, sorta… LOL

I have talked to my husband about wanting to make love more often and he has been very understanding, and tried. But honestly, I think part of it is his age (58) and dealing with ED because of blood pressure meds that makes his desire less than it was. I try not to take it personally, but hey, as we all know it’s hard not to wonder why our spouse does not desire us like they once did.

Last Friday afternoon was special since he got home earlier than usual last Friday and both the boys were gone until that night. He said he knew of a good way to spend the afternoon and led me to the bedroom.

My husband is a wonderful man and so loving and caring towards me. So I shouldn’t complain about not enough sex, but it’s just so much fun with him I crave more of it! 🙂

It boils down to communication. Your husband is not a mind reader, and frankly many men do not pick up on subtlety. We have been married 23 years and from time to time I need to gently remind my dear wife I am a bit more obtuse than she is.

You may need to modify the way you have intercourse, there are some positions that work very fast for my wife and some that do not work at all.

Try a different time of day, maybe your husband is exhausted after a long day of work, thus the desire for it to be over quickly. If he works an odd hours for work, consider changing your schedule to his. Making love before work is a great way to begin a day!

Thank you for all the replies. Since this happens to me we have designated one of our blankets just for sex purposes so that our bed doesn’t get wet. I admit to getting embarassed about it but I can’t complain about the orgasms, they feel great :).

Speaking as a guy:

No, it’s NOT selfish for you to want an O every time. Most husbands LIKE pleasuring their wives. If your husband doesn’t, there’s something wrong with HIM, not you. So when he says that pleasuring you the best foreplay for him, he’s probably telling the truth.

It seems like you want more sex. Ask him for it. Talk about this. Make it easy for him to say “yes”. If he’s coming home late from work, be ready for him. (And I mean READY for him, if you catch my drift.) “Sext” him before he gets off work to know what’s waiting for him.

You both seem to like more sex, but you’re going to have to work to make it happen. It’s worth the effort.

Oh, and the more you O, the easier it gets. (For men, it’s the opposite.)

I often have an ejaculation with manual stimulation, and for the most part it is indeed not urine, BUT, there are also times when I know that it is a mix of urine and fluid. I try to always empty my bladder before sex, but if I’ve had a lot of liquid beforehand is when it is more likely that I pee along with ejaculating. It bothers me a little bit, but my husband tells me to just enjoy and not let it bother me. If he doesn’t care, I guess I won’t either.

No need to be embarrassed! Check out my post on Female Ejaculation: Is It Real?

Here’s my quick take: Be willing to help a guy out. If your husband is willing to spend time and help you reach orgasm (and he should be, by the way), then you need to help him out by communicating what feels good, teaching him what you like, and even perhaps being willing to reach down and add your own hand to the mix. You might be able to reach orgasm sooner or more intensely if you also stimulate your clitoris while he’s working on your vagina or what-have-you. Is this weird the first time? Um, yeah. Will he mind? Probably not, since a lot of hubbies report that it’s even a turn-on for them to see how into the experience you are. Will it help? It could, especially if you’re close but can’t quite get there.

One more thing: Frankie Says Relax. (Just kidding. Channeling my 80s tunes there.) But do RELAX. If you’re on the way and tense up, your body can resist the final Woo-hoo! Relax your body, focus on the physical sensations, and let them wash over your body.

Best wishes with the Big O!!!