Daily Archives: July 15, 2013

How You Can Pray for Marriage Bloggers

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Last week, I heard from marriage bloggers who had their site hacked and taken down, received suggestive emails from a creepy follower, got personally attacked for word choice, sifted through loads of spam, and more.

Yep, it’s a typical week.

I love what I do here, and the marriage bloggers I know are also passionate about reaching out and ministering to couples in any way they can. But yeah, there are moments when it feels like we’re at an archery range with apples on our heads, and I ask myself, What did I sign up for?!!

So today I want to suggest ways you can pray for marriage bloggers.

Pray for their message. “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15

We need prayers to correctly handle the word of truth. It does no good to have a marriage blog that shoots out terrible advice like poorly-aimed buckshot. Maybe one shot hits a target, but we can do a lot of damage if we mess up the message.

The best marriage bloggers are constantly studying the Word of God, sifting through information and wisdom from others, considering what they say and how they say it, and clarifying if misunderstanding occurs. We want to be faithful in speaking God’s truth. Pray that we do it well.

Pray for their courage. “…enable your servants to speak your word with great boldness.” Acts 4:29

Being advocates for godly marriage oftentimes puts you at odds with people in the world. “Wait for sex until marriage,” “Don’t use porn,” “Submit to your husband,” — these and other messages are not ways to get invited to sit at the Cool Table of Life.

It takes a certain amount of boldness to speak up for what the Word of God says about relationships and marriage, because there are plenty of people who want to say you’re stupid, narrow-minded, misguided, or whatever. (In all fairness, I think that about plenty of secular sex bloggers, although I avoid personal attacks.)

But please pray for godly marriage bloggers to continue to speak with boldness about God’s heart for marriage. The Cool Table is overrated, and we’d rather be in the Book of Life.

Pray for their technology. “They were all trying to frighten us, thinking, ‘Their hands will get too weak for the work, and it will not be completed.’ But I prayed, “Now strengthen my hands.” Nehemiah 6:9

Of course there isn’t a Bible verse about using the Internet for ministry. However, the story of Nehemiah and his fellow Jews rebuilding the wall of Jerusalem seems appropriate. You see, those against the rebuilding of the wall did everything they could think of to frustrate Nehemiah and the workers. Sometimes, naysayers of marriage ministry can frustrate our efforts to get the message out by messing with the tools we use.

Recently, Sheila Wray Gregoire had a hacker repeatedly take down her website because he didn’t like what she said about porn. (He was identified and reported to the police.) I easily delete 10 or more spam messages every day, many of them giving links to porn sites (and yes, male enhancement *eye roll*). Other bloggers cull through phony email messages to find the couples really needing their help.

To continue with our message — and for me currently, my anonymity — marriage bloggers may pay for websites, security services, file retrieval, and tech support. Additionally, we spend time dealing with miscellaneous technology issues. A prayer that these tools will hold would be much welcome.

Pray for their readers. “And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ, for which I am in chains.” Colossians 4:3

Sometimes a reader ends up on my blog and says something like, “This is just what I needed to hear!” I’ve had that same experience with posts from other bloggers. I vividly remember opening an Unveiled Wife Prayer of the Day one time and thinking, “Oh my, was Jennifer in my house watching us?” It was just the prayer I needed at just the right time.

Please pray that God opens the right doors and sends the readers that need to hear our message, and that their hearts will be open to receive whatever sliver of wisdom or hope we can offer in God’s name.

Pray for their marriages. “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9

Reading this blog, you all think I have the Best. Sex. Life. Ever. Right?

Hey, I’d rate my marital intimacy very high, but it’s not perfect. (For one thing, I’ve yet to master that one sexual position where I have to twist . . .  Just kidding.)

Like all other marriages, marriage bloggers must cultivate a quality relationship with communication, time together, patience and understanding, focused priorities, and sexual intimacy. It’s easy, in fact, for people in ministry to neglect their own marriage — to take their own relationships for granted and to focus their efforts on working for some larger cause. Bad idea.

Please pray for the marriages of those involved in marriage ministry. We need to feel like it’s okay to ignore our emails for a few days, pass up an offer to speak, or skip a blog post if we need that time instead to be with our spouse and our family. “And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?” (Matthew 16:26a). Likewise, what benefit is there to helping other marriages if it costs us our own?

Just pray that we continue in strengthening our own marriages so that we can continue to speak boldly for godly marriage.

Thanks so much for your encouragement and prayers. Can you think of other ways to pray for marriage bloggers or ministers?