Good point. I agree that if it has the strong potential of bringing to mind specific porn images, stay away.

Interesting point. I guess I just feel SO MARRIED that I have a hard time even putting my mind in that place. :p

Honestly, I’m going to think about this for a while. Because I don’t want to suggest that married couples pretend that being unmarried and having sex is somehow better (totally not!). Thanks for your question.

Did you get an A+? LOL.

Yeah, some couples want to do this, but for many it’s just really awkward. Thanks, Megan.

I totally get what you’re saying. However, I’ve noticed that you can pull the “slippery slope” argument with lots of things that would be okay. Surely, I can eat one cupcake, but fifteen is too many. Where is the stopping point? Two? Five? Ten? Well, we can talk about that. But, unless I’m in an eating contest, we can all pretty much agree that fifteen cupcakes has hit glutton level–a very, very bad idea.

My point (however well or poorly made by that analogy) is that you could ask this with a number of sexual intimacy issues like: Why should you need more than one position? Why should you need to do it anywhere besides the bed? Short of a scriptural prohibition, we have to use biblical principles, reason, communication, prayer, conscience, etc. to determine where the boundary is.

Still, I agree with you that props, scenarios, and other “spicy” things should be used with caution, making sure that it isn’t taking attention away from your marital intimacy–which should always be center stage.

Yeah, it’s not my hubby’s thing either. He’s pretty much in the camp of “show up naked.” That “costume” gets a thumbs-up. 😉

Should I send you a cape? Just in case. 😉

Oh, thanks! And I’m glad you finally navigated over here. I HATE the thought that I’ve seemingly disappeared to those who want to follow. I pray that they find me!

Blessings, Lisa!

Well-put, Rick.

I guess the way I think of it is ROLE vs. IDENTITY. It’s almost like how you can watch old movies with Jimmy Stewart or John Wayne, and even though you believe that they are a cowboy/journalist/father/etc., you always know that it’s Jimmy or John. They are playing a role. By contrast, some people change their appearance and voice and mannerisms so much that it’s like they’ve taken on a totally new identity. Sure, that works when you’re Anthony Hopkins playing Hannibal Lecter (and yeah, I’d take a massive step back from him when he was in that persona, even though I know it’s not real), but donning a whole other identity in the bedroom could undermine the whole point of hubby and wife being intimate.

Ultimately, how you play this out is up to the couple and your conscience.