Me, too! Baby is due any day and we’ve had quite an adventure doing our “homework” to help move things along. Pregnancy has offered its fair share of challenges in intimacy, but the results have been highly rewarding to our marriage! I encourage anyone in the same position to keep trying and get creative!

Hear hear! I’m almost eight months pregnant, which is wonderful, but it is requiring creativity.

This sounds so familiar! I hope you heal up soon!

I found we talked more, and cuddled/snuggled more during that time. Physically it would have been too difficult (and exhausting!) to do anything else.

So important to stay connected, no matter how you do it 🙂

Honestly it’s not as bad as a lot of people experience! My aunt apparently had a 3rd degree…the 2nd degree just means in addition to skin I had some muscle tearing as well. When you get to 3rd and 4th apparently that’s just SUPER horrid. I honestly think the tearing was less painful than the stitching up afterward.

I have a great husband so I have been very open about my need for extra touching right now and he has been so good and loving. But I know we are both excited to use more than our hands. 😉 I think in addition to the fact it’ll have been awhile since we did IT the healing from the tear/stitches may be a little tighter and tender at first so we will definitely use lots of lube and he has been very eager to prove how slow and gentle he can be (thinks he can eliminate all pain, I’m not so sure hah!). I think someone suggested doing some stretching with fingers prior to the main event and that could help. Sounds like wedding night all over again to me haha!

Second degree tear? I can’t remember what that is, but it sounds really bad. You have my sympathy.

As I remember, it does hurt that first time after you haven’t in a while (and, you know, after you pushed a BABY out of there), but take it easy, lubricate like crazy if needed, and you’ll hopefully be back on track very soon. Be sure to get that affection when you can as well. That can keep you connected and remind you two that you are still lovers as well as parents.

Congrats and many blessings!

Yuck! Hope your hubby is feeling 100% very soon! Take care of both of you. 🙂

Thanks so much! We’re fine. Frustrations temporary, love everlasting. 🙂

Here too! It’s making me crazy. I’m so excited about getting another chance without a pregnant belly or hormones in the way (I’ve been pregnant 9 out of the 11 months we’ve been married!). At first I found my drive blissfully gone (hello second degree tear and assorted baby trauma) but now it’s coming back. Combined with the fact I have a strong physical touch as a love language and I’m just a little bit off. Also somehow nursing in the night limits ones ability to snuggle with hubby, who knew?? I’m just feeling a tad starved for physical touch and intimacy and very excited that baby times his arrival so that our anniversary is 6 weeks from his birth. I don’t care if it hurts the first time I am very excited about just TRYING.