J-Thank you for your quick, frank and honest answer. You absolutely should write about it. As a man I am struggling with my approach to it so I don’t sound either self-serving or lurid.

To stray for a moment from political correctness and concern for hyper-sensitivity and be honestly blunt, our wives’ beauty and body types were the first attractors. First we LOOKED. Then we listened. I don’t know of any man who first listened with his eyes closed while he decided whether or not to invest time in establishing a relationship. I feel certain females do the same. First may be how tall is he, but after that it is what does he look like. I make no apologies for acknowledging that truth. Great personality, smart, sense of humor, kind, and blah, blah, blah. Yeah, that too, but that wasn’t first. Owning that truth and dealing with it is the first step in accepting the visual nature of your relationship with your husband, and not just in the bedroom, and working out body image issues. This is good stuff I am now going to put into my post. Thanks for the help in sorting it out. 🙂

Another female marriage blogger and Christian left a comment on my blog much the same. She said as she has aged and matured, most of her body image issues are disappearing but her faith in accepting that she is a unique creation of God and that, as stated in Cor 7:4, her body also belongs to her husband, has brought her the most freedom.

Dan

I love it!! I wrote my hubby 6 things using this as a spring board but changing them to fit us. He loved them all and I had fun searching for scriptures for each one. However, #6 was his favorite!! 😉

Interesting question, Dan. I should probably write about this specifically. I even checked my answer with my hubby first to make sure he agreed (and he did): My answer is absolutely. I feel like my body is totally mine, but also totally his.

But honestly, it has taken a long time to get to that level of comfort and intimacy. Even though my body probably (…okay, definitely) looked a bit better when I was younger, I wasn’t as open with it then. Now I understand much better that how my husband and I view each other’s beauty is so wrapped up in our whole relationship, and our marriage is now at such a good place (wasn’t always) that we’re mutually generous and appreciative about our bodies with one another. But reiterating, it took a while to get there…both with our marriage and my body image.

ooops! That note was based on #6!

“I’m still in awe that I get to sleep next to a totally hot guy… From getting to look at his beautiful body…” I am doing a series on female body-image issues (well, trying to at least) and found this comment interesting. I was wondering if you allow your husband to feel and do the same, or dost thou protest too much? So many wives seem to be unwilling to accept that their husbands find their bodies appealing. Please feel free to hold this comment in moderation so it doesn’t skew the desired comments you are looking for. I don’t want to hijack the post but I am curious about how you feel since you are a pro-sex CMBA blogger.