Well, make a girl tear up, will ya? 🙂

Actually, it’s amazing to me how many husbands say such things about their wives. Many blessings to you and your marriage, Brian! Sounds like your wife is a lucky woman.

Please know that all guys have seen something at some point in their lives that is “sexy”. Let’s face it, it is all around us. It doesn’t take nudity to register in our minds. That said, there is no database of women from past pictures or media that sticks with men forever. It is one of the blessings built into us by God and why we keep wanting to explore our wife’s beauty when we have seen it a thousand times.

100% agree with Amy, Amen! In some respect it comes across as if you don’t believe or value your husbands opinion of you. I believe this does a tremendous amount of harm in the long run. It is all about attitude. I think we all would like to know our spouses find us attractive, I know I do.
Thanks for the great post!

I love that… sizzle it up.. its fun. I think a lot of couples’ inability to connect comes from a belief that this is not supposed to be super duper enjoyable, and doesn’t need much time or energy.. the belief that the marriage sexual connection is just like everything else.. and its not. Its special, set apart, it deserves time and attention and thought… preparation, and just plain old fun and creative thoughts. Make it fun for you both, try stuff, giggle, listen, study her responses and your own. Lovemaking should be to celebrate, to comfort, to heal, to show tenderness and forgiveness, to relax, to enjoy, to connect, to make babies, to quell fears, to be creative, and the marriage bed in undefiled.. enjoy yourselves men and women, there is NO SHAME in enjoying a healthy active sex life, its a bond that will carry you through many hardships. Get on board. I think the couples who have regular , enjoyable lovemaking at a frequency that suits them both – are happy and their marriages last! Its worth it. Now go get naked and enjoy this gift of closeness and pleasure you are allowed and encouraged to partake in. Lock the door, get a sitter, go away, spark it up and fan the flame. Don’t waste this wonderful thing… its yours to build and make special with your spouse. I cannot wait to get home… we have date nights to go out. And I know our “schedule” of lovemaking, and rather than being boring and routine, it gives me such anticipation, that Tues, Thurs, Fri, Sat & Sun, we are one flesh (and sometimes more than once on those days – Sat morning for example is a sweet time). It could be more or less, we don’t refuse each other. We are both open to the other’s needs. Today is Thursday, and I will not be disappointed and the whole day I know we are both looking forward to tonight.

I understand your frustration with that. And I’ve also heard that the “database of naked women in a man’s mind never goes away.” But I don’t think it’s quite that simple. Yes, those images went into his brain, but he’s not likely conjuring them up at the snap of his fingers. What I’ve heard from men over and over is that they don’t typically entertain those images if they (1) know they shouldn’t and make an effort to keep their minds properly directed and/or (2) have the woman they really want available to them. Of course, a husband must make a conscious decision to keep his eyes and mind and heart pure, but I believe we wives actually help their focus when we are intimate and available. Most men would far rather see their own wives, even with the imperfections.

Hope that helps! Best wishes.

I agree that husbands need to continue to woo their wives. Women want to be desired and valued, and husbands can and should make that a priority. Thanks for your comments!

Yay! Thanks. 🙂

Love this! I enjoy that up-down scan from my hubby too. That look was absolutely awful when I was single and some creepy guy did it, but with my hubby? Bring. It. On. 😉