Yes, it’s common for a woman to feel “looser” midlife. But the good news is that we more experienced women should know our way around the bedroom a bit more! 🙂 So we can be even better lovers with some extra time and effort. You might be able to create more friction in intercourse through repositioning (vaginal entry from the back or side, your legs together, etc.) or through using your hand to grasp his penis at the bottom of the shaft while he thrusts. For you to have orgasm with him inside, you may need to get close to climax through other means, then have him enter. He can also stimulate your clitoris during intercourse, or you can use your own hand if you wish. It may take a little creativity to orgasm through intercourse, but I think you can achieve it…and I think it would be worthwhile to add that to your repertoire. It’s a particularly intimate and satisfying way to climax. Blessings and best wishes!

Everyday? Honestly…I dream of that kind of intimacy with my husband! It’s been over a month now since the last time and he ask me the next day “did we have axe last night” it felt like a dream. I’m still confused about the comment but he made it as if he didn’t remember it happening! He’s dealing with stuff and it takes a toll on our relationship.

I know what you mean. After reading all the stuff I have on marrige today and intimacy with your spouse, I know I need to peruse him. I want him all the time to touch me, have a meaningful convo, or kiss me (without the routine morning bye kiss or the I’m going to bed kiss). But I’m thinking that I need to peruse him just as well (no, I know I need to). Show him i love and desire him. And love him with the love Gods put in me to love him with! Not saying I don’t love him now. Because I do, and I do desire him…but it’s time to put it to action!

Ha! Now we all have something to look forward to in our 70s. 🙂

A bit of background … it is a second marriage for both of us. In my first marriage, my spouse commonly ‘came’ inside me. My current husband is, ahem, longer and leaner in every way and there seems to be less “friction” from my vagina. His previous wife was a tiny woman and I imagine was smaller than me in her personal spots as well. Is it normal for all midlife women to feel “looser” or is this magnified because of our previous experience?

Thankfully, we both enjoy each other and climax regularly … I’m just wondering about things?