Thanks so much! Many blessings for your marriage.

I’m going to go with the Wikipedia definition: “A quickie refers to a brief or spontaneous episode of sexual activity, with the act finishing in a very short amount of time.” Orgasm is optional — maybe it happens, maybe it doesn’t. Not every sexual activity needs to end in orgasm to be pleasurable, even for men (believe it or not). Of course, climaxing is a particularly satisfying experience, so if you can reach it in a short time, go for it. Some wives can do so with more anticipation, added lubricant, and/or concentrated stimulation of the clitoris. Ultimately, you have to decide what works for your marriage, and that includes how you handle quickies.

Thanks for the great question!

You mention quickies….maybe we have different definition of quickies, but in my marriage, a quickie means “just for hubby.” There isn’t enough time, effort or stimulation for ME to orgasm, so while having quickies can get a busy husband by, it leaves me in the lurch.

Perhaps by quickie, you mean a quick interlude where you BOTH orgasm as opposed to a long evening of foreplay, passion, intercourse and afterglow.

Could you clarify your definition of quickie, please?

You wont’ be sorry Jenn. Hang in there and know God will honor your faithfulness. What seems like a such a small, pointless sacrifice in the world’s eyes is a HUGE step towards obedience to God in all things in the future of your marriage. Blessings in your upcoming marriage.

I like what you said Amy,
I too am in the same boat as my husband is exhausted. In his defense he is not home regularly and so when he finally gets home from a long shift or being on a fire for a week I’m good to go and he’s near dead ha! So I patiently wait…….and then try to give him plenty of warning. 😉

Oh no, did I use a weird term?!! “Digital” as in your digits (fingers), and “manipulation” as “to treat…as if with the hands…especially in a skillful manner” (Merriam-Webster). So touching with your hands.