Thanks for these resources. Honestly, I’m not familiar with any but the vaginismus site. I try to filter through what I post here, since I don’t want to recommend sources I don’t know anything about, but it looks like your list is a good one. I definitely think those in such difficult situations must pursue medical help, even changing doctors if necessary to address the problems.

Anonymous, three years ago I could have written the exact same thing. By God’s grace, my husband and I had not been sexually intimate with anyone else when we were married (although together we crossed some lines that should have remained uncrossed until after our wedding). I learned, after our wedding, that I had physical problems which made intercourse literally impossible. We slightly damaged my hymen during our wedding night, and then it healed and the scar tissue made it impossible for me to have sex without intense pain. We were intimate in other ways but didn’t have sex for several months, until after I had the hymen surgically removed and recovered from the surgery. I also had to get past a mental block, because I had learned to fear the pain which I had come to expect with sex. That also took some time from which to recover, but I am thrilled to report that, three-plus years into our marriage now, our sex life is fantastic and only getting better!

I encourage you to visit an OB-GYN, if you haven’t already, and find out what the problem is (if you don’t already know). I hope my story is an encouragement to you, and that you and your husband will soon be able to enjoy the pleasures of sex! I will be praying for you!

My wife and I found that after the birth of our first child we could no longer have intercourse. We put off getting help in the hope that things would get better. Time does not help. Do not make our mistake, get help now. There is a abundance of resources. Here are some of the resources we found helpful:

National Vulvodynia Association – http://www.nva.org
Vaginismus.com – http://www.vaginismus.com
Peter T. Pacik, MD – http://www.vaginismusmd.com Dr. Pacik also wrote a book we found helpful – When Sex Seems Impossible
The V Book – by Elizabeth G. Stewart M.D.

Start with your gynecologist but they may or not be of help. Many are simply uninformed.

Fabulous song! Thanks.

Felt compelled to leave this for anyone still struggling with their past — please go watch “Redeemed” by Big Daddy Weave. http://youtu.be/VzGAYNKDyIU

YOU are redeemed!

Amen!

As another Rahab, I too, used to struggle with my past… until the day that He impressed upon my heart that MY STORY IS HIS GLORY. It’s a story of forgiveness, redemption, love, mercy, and amazing grace. I will never, ever again be ashamed to tell of His glory.

To the ladies who still struggle with their past, don’t let what Jesus accomplished on the cross be in vain. He hung there for YOU, because He wanted YOU to be set free. 🙂