So thankful a growing number are willing to speak out!

I love that, Melissa. Thank you!

Amy,
Thanks for your reply. It must have been a God thing, because I knew that I had crossed that line and God was looking after me, by sending your admonition, and your extra caution to be careful in what I write.
Thanks, Ruth

Ruth, I’m sorry but I do not know of your site. I was talking in general not about any one site in particular.

For me — and I realize not everyone feels the way I do — as a Christian and a high drive wife who absolutely LOVES sex with her husband, I still do not like to read something which takes me into another couple’s bedroom or which goes into such explicit detail on how to perform certain sex acts. I believe it crosses that line of being educational/informational into erotica. I guess I can see it on a secular site, but not one where it is represented as a Christian, kwim? I believe those type of posts could be more detrimental to a relationship especially if one or both spouses struggle with porn or erotica use.

And therefore, I just stick with J’s site and a few others that I feel offer good information on sexual intimacy within a Christian marriage with taste and tact.

Again, these are just my humble thoughts and not meant towards anyone in particular. 🙂

Thank you so much for all your work toward removing the taboo on sex in marriage! I’m studying Family Life Ministry, and the things you teach are exactly what I’d like to teach in the ministry I am doing and will do in the future. The Church certainly needs to take a big step back from the negative views it’s been teaching on sex and start to teach what God’s Word says about the goodness of it in the marriage bed. You have such good content, I took the liberty of linking to your site from my blog. I hope you don’t mind. I can’t wait to read the new books!
God’s blessings!

Amy,
I believe you may be talking about my site christiansexclass.org. If that is the case, I wish you had commented directly to me.
You are absolutely right that I went too far in my last post, as far as taking people into my bedroom. I apologize and have since removed what I believe you found offensive and what I should not have printed.
I am rather new at this, and as you might imagine, it is not an easy thing to do. Please allow me to explain where I got off course, not as an excuse, but just so that you will know my heart. I have been camping out in John 13:2-5 where Jesus is preparing to serve his disciples by washing their feet. Before Jesus washed their feet, he got up and took off his clothes and wrapped a towel around His waste.
I’ve just been thinking that before I can serve people, I need to get naked, meaning, I need to be real myself and share my own stories.
Where I got way off base, is going into the narrative, and again I apologize. I can share my story without going into the narrative and taking you into my bed.
My goal on my blog is to share what I have learned, to point women towards the kind of sex that God intends – real connection, being present, “knowing each other”, and to educate couples in a respectful way.
Thanks,
Ruth

I wonder if some of those who find Christian sex authors to be unconventional realize that the church has been so evasive about sex and that many of us find your writing a breath of fresh air in a subculture that has often turned to euphemisms. I know I really appreciate it!

I agree, J, that you have never too much detail about your own private life. You share in a way which gives your reader’s food for thought but never too explicitly so we feel like we know what you and your husband do in private.
But there a couple sites which have bothered me when I found them unexpectedly especially because they claim to Christian sites promoting healthy sex in marriage, yet bring such graphic details to their posts that it feels like voyeurism when you’re reading it.

Anyway, thank you for your outreach to couples and their marriages.