Comments on: Views on Sex from a Recently Married Virgin

By: Reiko

Reiko — Sun, 25 Jan 2015 02:17:23 +0000

I’m surprised that women are saying it’s simple. Sure inserting tab A in slot B is simple, but that’s hardly sufficient for satisfaction. (I’ve already read all the articles and books on how to O that I can find, and nothing has helped much. They’ve mostly made me more acutely aware of what I’m missing out on, and it’s hard to be enthusiastic about something that isn’t improving.) It’s nice to hear that things are going well for some marriages, and being that satisfied after only a month is impressive. (Married over seven years now…) For me during pregnancy wasn’t any worse, but it wasn’t any better, either. (One child born less than a year ago.)

By: Ashley

Ashley — Fri, 02 Jan 2015 17:50:47 +0000

It sounds like you’ve had a terrific experience! We got married when I was 28, and your first point wasn’t so true for us in the beginning. We were both virgins, and had a fabulous time, but couldn’t quite get it to fit inside of me for several nights! We eventually figured it out though. 🙂

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 31 Dec 2014 16:23:18 +0000

It is so wonderful to hear about a 20 something couple who were virgins on the day of their wedding! Even more exciting is the news of fulfilling and functional marriage bed. I know so many couples from my generation who were virgins on their wedding day but the marriage bed has so unfulfilling, including my own.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 30 Dec 2014 01:49:11 +0000

I love this 🙂 It is so encouraging to read of another 20-something couple who were both virgins when they married and that are learning first-hand about this thing called making love! I have been married for 1 and 1/2 years now and we have already been through many seasons in this area (and no, I have not been / am not pregnant!). I know it is a journey and I need to keep my head up and enjoy! Thank you for this reminder 🙂

By: J

Mon, 29 Dec 2014 20:35:18 +0000

In reply to Tad. Great idea! I'm putting that on my ever-growing idea list -- positions while pregnant. (Yeah, it can be challenging.) Congratulations and many blessings for your marriage!

By: Tad

Tad — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 18:01:45 +0000

This story closely mirrors my own! My husband and I got married the end of July, I am 23 and he is 31. Physical touch is our primary love language as well, and it certainly made me thankful that it was a long distance engagement (WI & TX)! It is amazing how once you develop a trusting emotional relationship with someone, it helps your physical relationship fall into place… we transitioned from our first kiss at the wedding to enjoying the rest of the evening in our hotel room so naturally that it wasn’t hard to relax and be intimate. Sure, there some funny and slightly awkward moments, but we were really too focused on each other to care – we enjoy laughing about them now! Five months later, we are now expecting a baby boy in April and still crazy about each other.

Note to J – I would love if you have a link to, or would do a post on positions that work best while you are pregnant. It’s starting to get a little harder to find something that works, and I often go ahead and do it anyway, but it really kills the mood when you get nauseous and/or sick after making love… 🙁

By: J

Mon, 29 Dec 2014 17:57:38 +0000

In reply to Steve Fryar. Wow! Thank you, Steve.

By: M

Mon, 29 Dec 2014 17:53:11 +0000

Love this!! My husband and I were both 27 year old virgins when we married and our stories sound so very similar. Two years and two pregnancies later I feel like it’s still just as new and different though as the night we got married because hormones and a changing body makes it constantly new and different. I would say to you that don’t worry if it becomes more difficult during/after pregnancy. The first three months were easy breezy until I got pregnant with our son. Now I am 30 weeks with our daughter (no we did not plan to have them 13 months apart and that is definitely part of the sex and body learning process!!) I find myself easily discouraged that I don’t crave sex like I did before. But because of the little window between pregnancies I was reminded that when I’m not pregnant I do love it and very much enjoy it. So if and when you become a mommy just remember this too shall pass! Or maybe you’ll be like others I’ve heard and sex will be even better when you’re pregnant than when you’re not. 😉

By: Steve Fryar

Steve Fryar — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 17:13:44 +0000

Lauren, After reading your great post, I was reminded again about how God’s design for marriage is perfect and the longer you’re married the better everything becomes if we keep Him first.
Be sure to get your copy of J’s Devotional – Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage. My wife and I do one devo each morning with our coffee. Great start to the day.
Congratulations on your marriage. Prayers for many happy and healthy years together.

By: Lina

Lina — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 14:50:27 +0000

Good for her to be so open and encourage others! My husband was a widower who had never been with anyone but his late wife and I had never even kissed anyone before we became engaged. I tell him, and anyone else to whom it will do any good, that it is wonderful to have my whole learning curve and discovery involved with one man, the man I love, the man who married me.