You have no responsibility in your brother in laws actions. If it has been addressed and he continues to be inappropriate than you both have made the best decision for each other AND your marriage. Not easy either way, but shame on your brother in law. Your husband is also modeling for his children appropriate behavior for their spouse.

Just be aware that women are often drawn to charming words just as much if not more so than sexual advances. I have a friend, life-long bachelor, who could charm Shakespeare’s shrew into the bedroom with words and charm alone.

There’s a difference between being a polite gentleman and acting the rogue.

Were he my brother, his time on earth would be limited to frequent stays in the hospital.

I shouldn’t condone violence but … I have two brothers that would only get away with inappropriate behavior with my wife once. A second time isn’t going to be a friendly conversation. Just sayin.

It is NOT because of you. It’s your brother-in-law. Do what you need to do to prioritize your marriage, and don’t worry about him getting his feelings hurt or your husband losing contact with him. It’s his family, and if he wants to approach it more, he can.

Tell your husband how much you appreciate him choosing to honor you. Good for him.

My pleasure. My heart goes out to you. And yeah, I kinda wanted to smack that woman for you. Kinda. 😉

Since I was talking the wife, I did not give instructions to the HUSBAND on handling this. But yeah, if he were the questioner, I’d tell him to shut that down…yesterday.

EXCELLENT POINT! I had to look it up. HAHA!

For anyone else as clueless as me, here’s a good definition:

There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”

Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.

To me, a man, once I married, I took the Nancy Reagan approach. I believe Mrs. Reagan was the most successful First Lady when it came to success with children. My children were in elementary during and after the Reagan presidency. My oldest, now pushing 30, will always answer “NO!” to the question, “Do you want drugs?” Nancy Reagan pounded the line, “Just say no to Drugs!” into my kids’ (and every adult of the generation) heads.

My job as my wife’s husband is to shut down any flirting that gets physical. I say physical as my wife married me because I’m a flirt. I still flirt but only with words, and nothing EVER sexual. I open a lot of doors with my personality and my wife has actually told me not to stop because it’s the trait that drew her to me in the first place.

So, husbands, DO NOT MAKE YOUR WIFE CONFRONT YOU, THE OTHER WOMAN, HER FEARS, OR HER INTIMACY! Do it yourself and don’t put yourself in the position of giving your wife something extra to worry about.