You’re right: We don’t agree. But I appreciate your engaging and certainly your appeal to Scripture. That is my guide as well, although sometimes Christians disagree on interpreting specifics. Thankfully, I believe this isn’t a salvation issue, so we can hopefully respect one another’s thoughts and continue to work on the same side of bringing people to God.

Thank you so much for your response J, and for clarifying your opinion on the matter. It was helpful to hear what your reasoning process is more fully.
I guess the big issue is that you have basically said that the New Testament must reintroduce an Old Testament law to be applicable, which is not supported in either testament. But I’m not sure that you really believe it, and maybe just haven’t thought it through? I suggest it due to considering the implications of such an opinion in regards to the issue at hand.
Leviticus 20:18 If a man lies with a woman during her sickness and uncovers her nakedness, he has exposed her flow, and she has uncovered the flow of her blood. Both of them shall be cut off from their people.
It is in the same passage of verses that forbids incest, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, and intercourse with non-blood related aunts and uncles, daughter-in-laws, step-mothers, etc. The passage is summed up by verses 22-23:
22 ‘You shall therefore keep all My statutes and all My judgments, and perform them, that the land where I am bringing you to dwell may not vomit you out. 23 And you shall not walk in the statutes of the nation which I am casting out before you; for they commit all these things, and therefore I abhor them.
And verse 26:
26 And you shall be holy to Me, for I the LORD am holy, and have separated you from the peoples, that you should be Mine.
The nations did these things, and He calls it abhorrent. Or is it just these things aside from menstrual sex? Marrying your sibling would also have to be permissible too, because that isn’t reiterated in the NT either. These are not ceremonial commands, regarding sacrifices or offerings, but commands regarding lifestyle and morality. We can’t say that just because we don’t understand why it is applicable, we will not follow it. God doesn’t ask us to understand, he asks us to trust and obey.
Abstaining from these things, and doing many other things, is called holiness in scripture, and are we not to try to achieve holiness? Are we not called to come out from the world and be separate, ie. Holy? And I want to clarify that I did not say righteous, which is a completely different matter, as righteousness comes by faith and faith alone.
If we as believers pick and choose what is in effect by our own interpretations and knowledge of science and biology, we have taken the Word of God and subjected it to the wisdom of man, which is foolishness in His eyes.
Matt 5:17-19 “Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill. 18 For assuredly, I say to you, till heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one tittle will by no means pass from the law till all is fulfilled. 19 Whoever therefore breaks one of the least of these commandments, and teaches men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever does and teaches them, he shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.”
I know that you and I will probably not agree on this issue, but I wanted to offer a differing point of view to you and your readers, because I believe that honoring God’s commandments is a crucial part of our walk.

I would look at those scriptures, absolutely. But I don’t believe all verses have equal weight in determining our choices. For anal sex, I look at the construction of our bodies, the health and medical issues presented by that practice, and the prescriptions from God to take care of our bodies and make choices accordingly. BDSM has those same problems as well.

I don’t know if it appears which way I lean. But I personally lean away from having sex during one’s period, mainly because of the health issue that seems to be the underlying reason for the OT scriptures. The flow opens things up, and sex in those circumstances involves risk. However, I gave my reasoning for why I don’t think the OT denunciation of that practice is as applicable today. If I saw other moral problems with it from the Bible, I’d be quick to change my mind. Maybe you could tell me why you think otherwise. I’m open to discussion.

It might only be a teaspoon of actual blood, but it’s a lot more volume than that of other things, at least for me. One teaspoon wouldn’t require a dozen pads/tampons a month.

We don’t do anything during my period, but I need to work on being more intimate in other ways. It’s hard when he doesn’t want anything except intercourse though. Maybe self-play will be an option at some point. He wouldn’t have to touch me, but he could enjoy the show.

Ezekiel 18 is an interesting place to quote. If it were only Leviticus, it’d be easier to say it’s only a ceremonial law, but when it’s repeated later and put in parallel with idolatry and adultery, which are both still very much unacceptable, that makes me more concerned, personally.

Also, pork is still a bad idea. Even if you don’t care about being fertile, why would you want to invite that kind of sickness into your body?

I do not think you’re a fool, nor are you abnormal. Plenty of couples refrain during that time of the month. However, even if your wife is uncomfortable with intercourse during her period, it would be nice to have other options. : )

(And I never understand why sex isn’t discussed in marriage classes or retreats. It’s like we’re all still in junior high health class, too afraid to say the word “sex.” I see no such timidity about this subject in the Word of God.)

To this day I’ve never heard sex talked about in church or in a Bible study. We even attended a four-day marriage retreat last year where sex was not discussed. Thanks for being willing to discuss this issues openly and in a godly manner.