Maybe a customized version of this challenge to this husband? Perhaps include a minimum number for that week that he has to initiate (prob 2 or 3)? Or would that turn him off altogether? The next week could then be lady’s choice where she initiates and she is in charge but he has to at least try what she wants? Or schedule his and her nights, or even take turns initiating but set a time limit where once reached you have to initiate that day? (Obviously they can be loose rules.)

It ultimately needs to be an ongoing conversation and both of them have to give a little.

I agree with so much here! But I’m going to nitpick on one little thing: “Simultaneous orgasms are a myth.” No, they happen. But they’re not all that common, and not all they’re made out to be in movies and novels, etc.

Thanks!

In the beginning of the marriage relationship, the husband will be so intrigued with sexual congress that the only thing the wife will need to do is make herself available. But after some years have gone by, the husband can begin to feel like he’s some sort of circus animal who’s been trained to do tricks, and when that happens lovemaking can feel like a chore to him. Do not make the mistake of thinking that he’s been satisfied just because he’s had an orgasm while he was working on you. Sometimes, the wife needs to “do” her husband just for his own sake. Simultaneous orgasms are a myth. There’s nothing wrong with taking turns pleasuring each other, and it’s actually a lot of fun!

You really do have to talk to each other. And for goodness sake, wives, never ask, “Am I good enough in bed for you, dear?” How can he possibly answer a question like that honestly? It’s like saying, “Does this dress make me look fat?” Instead, if you are sincere, ask him, “What could I do differently in order for us to have the best love life possible?” You want to help him learn to communicate with you, and that is not easy for us men! But if there’s one mortal with whom honest talk is the highest priority, it’s your spouse. Believe it or not, it often takes us men a long time, days, weeks or even more, to begin to understand our feelings enough to verbalize them coherently. Women really are more advanced socially!