Fool, if you’re not joking, your name befits you. If you don’t want to live up to the name, continue visiting this and other sites that promote healthy, loving, HOT, Godly monogamy. You’ll figure it out.

Going with the idea that there’s truth in every joke, I’m sure we’ve all heard this one:

On the day of the wedding, the groom slips out of the Bridal Chamber and makes his way to his changing room. His best man sees him enter and says, “Wow. You’re grinning from ear to ear. What’s going on?” The groom responds, “I just received the best blowjob of my life!”

Meanwhile, the bridesmaids enter the Bridal Chamber and, seeing the bride-to-be with the same ear to ear grin, one of them asks, “Wow. Why are you so happy?” The bride replies, “I just gave the last blowjob of my life!”

I guess this is why cheating sites exist in the first place. First, men and women wanting to get married (aside from not being pure before marriage) go into it with this kind of negativity spewing forth, placing doubts in their minds before they’ve even made their vows. Once married, they allow the “myth” to become reality. It’s easier than working through the issues and fighting for something bigger than themselves.

What a blessing to have a wife willing to overlook all my faults and issues she had no idea she was “buying”. I was one that listened to the naysayers and looked outside our marriage for a solution. I’m blessed I missed my opportunity. Married sex is, by far, much hotter than any sex I had as a single man. But I had to believe it was possible. And now I do.

Not. At. All.

What is this “sexual fulfillment in marriage” you speak of? Surely you jest.

I’ve seen the same numbers you’ve seen, and it looks like this was a site vastly populated by men. However, I agree that women also cheat in marriage, just likely through different means. Thanks, Steve.

Doesn’t humble pie taste terrible? I’ve eaten it plenty, so I should know! 😉

Hello again J:

Well I’m here for a helping of ‘humble pie’, as the saying goes. I was one of the those who took issue with your Duggar post only addressing the husbands role in the AM debacle. This evening I saw this piece in the online news: https://www.yahoo.com/health/why-women-didnt-actually-use-ashley-madison-127717676167.html

It turns out that very, very few women actually used AM and that most of the female accounts were created in-house to lure more business from men. I found myself wondering if these guys were praying for forgiveness as much for gullibility as for sin!

I was amusing myself for a moment with an idea along the lines of the Book of Job. Instead of God and Satan making a bet on Job’s piety, God and the spirit of P.T. Barnum would make a bet on the gullibility of the AM clientele. God would be optimistic and say something along the lines of, “They can’t be that half-witted!” The angelic P.T. Barnum would reply, “Sure they can! I’ll prove it!”

Anyway, when I’m wrong I like to admit it…

Well spoken.

So many Christians miss the main point: we’re not called to be “holier than thou”, but to be “holier FOR thou.” People are looking at us, and our actions do speak louder than our words. Living in sexual purity isn’t just for our own personal benefit – it is shining a light in the darkness for the benefit of those who dwell in the darkness. Sexual purity – meaning chastity outside of marriage and fidelity within – is worth doing even if didn’t happen to be all that beneficial to the person practicing it, even if it really was something that was just sacrificial and difficult and even painful without the promise of any pleasure at all in this life. Let’s be honest here: sometimes it is exactly that for some Christians. We would all like to believe that the path of sexual purity does lead to tremendous sexual fulfillment within marriage, and often it does. However, very few of us tread that path without passing through at least a few difficult spots alone the way. Some of us find out that God’s calling for us requires us to stay on a particularly difficult path, with a lifetime of sacrificial love. Some of us are called to a pathway that requires us to travel it alone without a marriage partner. This is all difficult, but that isn’t the whole story. None of this is possible except in, through, and for Christ. He makes all the difference, and makes it all worth it.

Reclaim it! That’s what I feel my own mission here is: Reclaiming God’s design for sex in marriage. I hear from couples who figure things out 20, 30, 40 years into their marriage, and they end up experience beautiful bedroom bliss. It’s not too late.

Saying a prayer for you and your marriage.

So much truth Sheila, and J. I was so messed up by purity teachings 🙁 My husband has been SOOOOO extremely patient with me. At one point he realized I was having sex with him every other night out of obligation, and he told me to STOP! After that he realized the guilt I felt associated with sex. We took some time for me to heal, sex was much less frequent, but now it’s more passionate. It took WORK though. So much work on my part to disect pain, preconceived notions etc. What drives me crazy about purity culture is it teaches you can be pure, when in fact no one, not virgins, not children, not anyone is pure. We’re all sinners. Period!