Hi Jerry,

You are more then welcome to print and use this post with sharing that I wrote it and that it was on J’s site, as long as that is ok with J. We appreciate partnering with you in strengthening marriages. Blessings to you and your ministry. Kate

Go, hubby! Well spoken.

Absolutely! I’m not Catholic, but even the Pope doesn’t claim to speak with divine inspiration all the time. And, sad to say, we husbands are shamefully known to speak in a self-serving manner at times. But when a man looks at his wife with an expression of adoration that makes her think he can see directly into her soul and tells her she’s beautiful, he’s speaking for God, baby!

I agree with so much of what you said!

One question, however: I can just imagine that wife out there who says, “If my husband speaks for God, and my husband doesn’t think I’m beautiful, then…?” I wouldn’t put that much weight on my husband’s opinion of my looks, and it’s only when my husband is in agreement with God’s purpose for him that his words can be said to reflect God’s own message to us. I suspect we’d agree on that, though. Right?

But you say, “Yeah, yeah, I hear that, but I’m fifty pounds overweight, etc., etc, so how can I be beautiful?” First, God sees the internal essence of everything, not the superficial surface. My wife had her gynecological checkup this morning. She called me at work to inform me that her Ob-Gyn said all her lady parts were fine. My response was, “Well, I could have told her that!” Yes, I know my wife’s body like the back of my hand, but I also know the sweetness of her spirit. I can see past her so-called “weight issues,” her “self-image concerns,” and any number of other irrelevant things and savor her inner goodness. God can do that, too! The world cannot. Do I have to even ask you who is correct: God or the world? Enough said there.

Something else to consider is that God is not constrained to view us based upon the moment. Gideon was such a hopeless case (as far as the world was concerned) that he was threshing grain in hiding so his Midianite enemies wouldn’t see him and steal his food. God’s angel spoke to him and called him a mighty warrior. Some theologians see this passage as an example of God’s supposed sense of humor, but that is really a very superficial reading of scripture. God saw Gideon based on the totality of what he would become, not merely what was visible at the moment. Likewise, both your husband and God see you as a work in progress, and so should you! God is not constrained by past, present and future. He sees it all. How could He not, being omniscient? He knows that what is visible now is not the end product.

Regardless of whether or not you succeed in your attempts to lose those pesky ten pounds, one day you’ll have a glorified, eternal body, lit up from within by the Holy Spirit. So take hope, sister, and rejoice! You are already the apple of your husband’s eye and a princess in the sight of the Lord. Doesn’t get much better than that!

This is a great post for godly wives to see theirself as God has created them – female and beautiful to their husband.

A theme in our discussions is to reach deep into the heart of the wives to convey that their husband really LIKES to look at their body. Thank you for this female perspective!

I may even print it out, with your permission & contact info, of course so I can share it with the folks we speak to at our seminars.

Jerry – Cracking The Marriage Code

You and Brad do a wonderful work.

It started out with my verse of the day: For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. Psalm 139:13-14.

Apparently, God wants me to remember that I am beautiful because of him.

The world constantly manipulates faces, forms, and imagery and then claims (for all intents and purposes) to own the definition of beauty. Massive lie; but hard not to swallow when it’s forced down our throats every day.

It’s disheartening that even young girls now question their own God-given beauty. I recall a pastor once saying that he was shocked how his young daughter, after watching TV one day, asked him: “Daddy, am I scexy?” [sic] She was so young she couldn’t even pronounce the word, and yet its awful effect was already taking root.