There are some moms out there who rejoice that their children are meeting joyfully in the marriage bed.
I had one and I am doing what I can to be a sex positive, tactful, influence in my own young adult children’s lives. However, I understand your comment these photos would be hard for some moms.

I pray that this mother and daughter can, down the road with the perspective of time under their belts, talk about this calmly and respectfully with open-hearts. It’s tricky for some to learn how to evolve from being a parent of a youth to a parent of an adult.

Both dear moms are now with Jesus. And since we’ll be spirits until we get our new bodies in the resurrection, anyway, we’ll be invisible, so photos won’t work.

Eric

I personally know a lady who takes boudoir photos. Her husband is a pastor in a solid evangelical church. I don’t think a man should be taking pictures of a woman in a negligee (or nude), but for a woman to take such photos, that’s another matter.

I agree with everything you’ve said.

What to do with risque photos years later can be a problem. About 50 years ago I used an Instamatic (remember those) to take some nude photos of my wife, for which she posed happily. It was fun. But we later burned them in the incinerator. It was just too much to explain, had someone found them.

As a teen (1950s) I, my brother and some other guys used to skinny dip in a country brook, half a mile from the nearest house. I learned, too, of a couple of girls who did the same (with no boys around). These were “secrets” we never let our parents know about, even though no sex was involved. Then one day, when I overheard my dad and a neighbor talking, I learned that he and friends did the same in the 1930s. My point: there are things that are perfectly fine in controlled circumstances, but as the young bride who wrote you learned, some things you just shouldn’t talk about with your mother. I’d dearly love to have one of those nude photos of my wife I took when we were first married, but having them around (we have children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren who like to look at family pictures) is not worth the risk. But I would tell them, if they asked. My mom is with the Lord, so she won’t ask!
Eric

Thank you!

I didn’t say it had anything to do with porn. I said I didn’t know what was going on here, and then I gave a different example involving lingerie and a made-up story about porn. Maybe I worded something in a way you thought otherwise. But that was a totally different example, used only for illustrative purposes — not to reflect on this situation.

I do think the mom freaked because of the third party involved…

Other than that I agree with your answer – this request and response is an indicator of the change of the relationship dynamic. Her mom will always be her mom, but there are on the same playing field now so boundaries are necessary. I’d say this was a learning experience for both.