Comments on: Sex with Your Spouse: Why Not Tonight? https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Wed, 16 Dec 2015 13:55:35 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 By: Sexisanotherchore https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-45962 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 13:55:35 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-45962 What if your spouse says it’s not enough for you to agree to it…you HAVE to desire it and him. I have no sex drive so it’s a chore for me to engage but I try and then he says it’s not enough.

]]> By: Sexisanotherchore https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-45959 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 13:52:41 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-45959 What if you agree but since you said you weren’t really interested your spouse says well i you don’t desire me than I don’t want you to agree to it. The fact is I have no drive, no desire, but sometimes say yes to please my husband and he says that’s not good enough. I HAVE to want it and him to make him happy.

]]> By: Charles https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44613 Mon, 23 Nov 2015 23:57:03 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44613 Why not, indeed.
But then she has a list of why not as long as I am tall.

]]> By: Danielle https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44529 Sun, 22 Nov 2015 19:42:56 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44529 In reply to J.

No prob, bob! Just wanted to make sure it hadn’t sneaked past me in the Spam folder or something!

]]> By: Scott https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44520 Sun, 22 Nov 2015 17:22:03 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44520 I love the idea of setting a new default! Fabulous!!

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44514 Sun, 22 Nov 2015 14:30:21 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44514 In reply to Danielle.

Yes! I’d planned to email you yesterday, but then my hubby wanted to do something and… Anyway, congrats! I’ll contact you soon.

]]> By: Danielle https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44496 Sun, 22 Nov 2015 00:27:48 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44496 Whoa! I won! *insert Price is Right crazy person running down the aisle*
I’ll be watching for…an email, I guess?

]]> By: cowboyswife https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44493 Sat, 21 Nov 2015 23:25:46 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44493 My husband was married before and had a gatekeeping wife. Nevertheless they were happily married until she sadly passed away. Before we married we often talked about our sexual expectations. It was then that I purposed in my heart to never say no to him. I wanted him to feel loved and like his needs are equally as important as mine. Knowing that a yes is always on the other side of the ask has made us both much less inhibited in our sexual relationship.

]]> By: libl https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44448 Sat, 21 Nov 2015 14:18:48 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44448 As you’ve likely realized from my comments my marriage bed is far from perfect, but there is stuff going on that is a great positive. One is that we don’t ask why tonight. Our default is yes.

It is very freeing for spouses of all drives to leave the door to sex open….better yet, pull that door right off its hinges!! It leaves no room for rejection. It makes having sex and not having sex tonight ok because there is always an assured later. It makes quickies and just for me sex ok because the other spouse knows they can “go for it for themselves” later when they are ready.

No matter what your drive is, you can be sex positive in marriage. Accepting sexual negativity from refusal and gatekeeping, to selfish one sided sex and porn is WRONG! I don’t care if you are borderline sex addict or are borderline asexual. You can and should be Sex positive in marriage

]]> By: leke joseph https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/11/21/sex-with-your-spouse-why-not-tonight/#comment-44442 Sat, 21 Nov 2015 13:27:10 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=9852#comment-44442 you just made my day. quite insightful.

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