Comments on: 10 Ways to Stop Being a Scrooge in Your Bedroom https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Mon, 21 Dec 2015 04:18:09 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.3 By: Chrisitan Marriage Bloggers I Love - Love Hope Adventure https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-46304 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 04:18:09 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-46304 […] I love to read J’s articles. She addresses everything head on in her posts and adds quite a bit of humor to what she has to say. Her concepts are brilliant, like how to top being a grinch in the bedroom. […]

]]> By: thisgirl https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-46085 Fri, 18 Dec 2015 19:48:46 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-46085 I’m the wife and is in no mood for intimacy.Been like this for a long time now. I just don’t feel like it. I love my husband but everything..I mean the whole marriage thing seems overwhelming…the responsibility is enormous..kids.. work.. school …husband.. etc . I had no idea it was like and it kind of depresses me..
Makes me feel like my life is kinda over

]]> By: Bonny @OysterBed7 https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-46007 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 12:57:31 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-46007 In reply to B.

B, google your city with something like “Christian, marriage, sexual issues, sexual intimacy issues.” Psychology Today offers listings of counselors in different areas, even Christian Counselors. If you can’t find anyone who seems suitable by googling, make a call to any counselor in your area and ask them if they know of Christian counselors who specialize in marriage. Most counselors are happy to help with suggestions (at least the ones I know.)

I would also suggest asking around, but I know your situation is personal and delicate.

Once finding a counselor, you will have to gauge whether they are a good fit for you and your husband. Plus, you want to make sure that they aren’t divorce minded at all. I know it doesn’t make sense, but some Christian counselors are. AND, if hubby won’t go, go by yourself!!!

]]> By: B https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45785 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 00:18:00 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45785 In reply to Kevin.

Kevin, do you have any suggestions on how to FIND such a counselor? I’m the wife, and my drive is higher than my husbands. How do I find a good counselor to deal with that? One who won’t make both of us feel like weirdos?
Thanks!

]]> By: Kevin https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45767 Sun, 13 Dec 2015 02:28:00 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45767 In reply to libl.

There are many Chriatian counselors that can help. I have been a marriage and family counselor for years and the topic of having a healthy biblical sex life is a topic I deal with often. I suggest finding a Christian counselor that can speak to the what God intended sex to be in marriage and that is awesome for both spouses!!! God bless.

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]]> By: Lynn https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45755 Sat, 12 Dec 2015 21:13:17 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45755 I actually have some time off this coming week, and it’s amazing the difference in how relaxed I feel, knowing that I don’t have to get everything done on Saturday. We spent 2 and a half hours in the bedroom this morning, showering together, and just staying in bed snuggling and chatting. It was heaven! Wishing everyone a few hours of stress-free enjoyment of their spouses during this season, of which a woman I once knew used to say, “Tis the season to be tired.”

]]> By: Anonymous https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45752 Sat, 12 Dec 2015 20:40:53 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45752 I am in for #9!i I already do a lot around the house due to my wife’s health so I give out of love, expecting nothing in return. I do know from the past, sex will not happen until sometime in January due to the holiday stress.

]]> By: Louisa https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45749 Sat, 12 Dec 2015 19:43:08 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45749 Great advice, as always. We don’t get too caught up in the whole commercialism of the season. But our work is always busier this time of year. Hubby and I work together spraying weeds, and as it is summer here the weeds are growing. But when we get home after a day of walking up and down hills we just want to collapse. So making time/scheduling time for intimacy is a priority. Thankfully we have just become empty nesters which does make this easier. I know you do this, I just want to help stress it. MAkE THE TIME. In our marriage it also helps if I grab him and start.

One other time saving advice is do the grocery shopping online. We live out of town so I do this regularly. It saves so much stress.

]]> By: libl https://hotholyhumorous.com/2015/12/12/10-ways-to-stop-being-a-scrooge-in-your-bedroom/#comment-45743 Sat, 12 Dec 2015 17:00:33 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=10368#comment-45743 I am feeling Scroogy in the bedroom not because of the holidays but because his sexual selfishness has peaked again. I can’t remember the last time I got to climax. Every time I try, he finishes and that’s that. He makes no effort to give me a climax, except for pounding me, which I have repeatedly told him.doesn’t work. I have to make myself orgasm, but if I am taking too long (more than 5 minutes), he just goes for his, thanks me, and the end.

When I talk to him about it, he either gets defensive or looks confused. I have tried getting a third party in, pastors, but no one wants to touch our sex life. Too intimate, could cause someone to stumble, blahblahblah…..

So, please give me the gift of praying for the Holy Spirit to knock hubby with a clue. Because even with the strength to speak up it falls on deaf ears, and boundaries or ultimatums are seen as a challenge to the nth degree in which he will fight dirty to see to it that he “wins.”

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