Comments on: Star Wars and Fighting for Your Marriage

By: J

Sun, 17 Apr 2016 22:33:08 +0000

In reply to Benjam. Aha! Proof that the book is always better than the movie. Thanks for that!

By: Benjam

Benjam — Sun, 17 Apr 2016 19:26:43 +0000

Well that’s Hollywood for you. I’m an avid fan of the Star Wars books that Disney erased to make their new timeline and I’d like to share with you how this dynamic duo lasted during those 30 years in the original timeline.

~They are still together
~They had a twin boy and girl, and then another boy
~They have experienced far greater hardships than in the new timeline without losing their marriage; they stuck it out and got married while fighting the empire and forming a new government. Their youngest died during a war with a extra-galactic race that ravaged the entire galaxy. Their oldest boy durned to the dark side, murdered their sister-in-law, and had to be defeated by his sister
~They are still an awesome couple, awesome parents, and event awesome grandparents; They are raising their oldest boy’s daughter, who is heir to the Happen throne, even while still trying to keep the galaxy from falling apart, and still try to make sure they spend good family time with her. They also keep tabs on their girl, who is a Jedi and is courting the leader of what remains of the Empire. They still accomplished diplomats and rabble rousers who do what’s right. They work together so well by now that you’d think they were both Jedi instead of just Leia.

I think that they are an example of a real relationship that just grows stronger when times get harder. Happily Ever After for sure.

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By: Ales

Ales — Sat, 09 Jan 2016 03:42:34 +0000

I so agree with your thought on this. Hubby and I were so disappointed too. Hubby is actually one of the biggest Star War fans out there, and he was so disappointed in the whole thing. Growing up Han Solo was his role model. Even now as a grown man in his 40s knowing that this is all fiction he was so upset that his role model gave up on his marriage, was a bad dad and even left the cause he had so passionately risked his life for. Yeah, Hollywood gives us some pretty bad ideas about marriage, honor and parenthood. Kids see this and think its normal. So sad.

By: alchemist

alchemist — Fri, 08 Jan 2016 22:23:13 +0000

I’m glad I’m not the only one who was disappointed. Granted, they probably weren’t the most emotionally mature people and it’s not very surprising that a character like Han Solo would chose to leave instead of facing the emotional difficulty their son’s choices must have caused. I got the impression they broke up because of it. So in one respect it’s actually true to life. Love did not tame the “bad boy” smuggler. But I was still sad. Specially because of the end. Poor Leia. *sob*

Even sadder because of the resemblance to a situation in Naruto Shippuden. The Han Solo-ish character, (Jiraya) is in love with the princess Leia-ish character (Tsunade) HIS ENTIRE LIFE. The differences are that they grew up and fought wars together and he never did have the courage to tell her. She had a fiancé who died under her hands (she was a healer) when they where in their 20’s. Then, in their 50’s or 60’s he goes off to confront a former student who was trying to take over the world with an evil person. So. Many. Feelings.

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Happy Hour | The Romantic Vineyard — Fri, 08 Jan 2016 22:02:40 +0000

[…] Star Wars And Fighting For Your Marriage – Leave it to J to find an analogy in the new Star Wars movie – The Force Awakens. And I might add, she does a brilliant job. If you’ve seen the movie, click and read. If you haven’t, you may want to wait as there are spoiler alerts. […]

By: Christina

Christina — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 21:12:20 +0000

Love the analogy here! Thank you for your fun yet clear perspective on marriage.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 20:50:04 +0000

I love this article . Last I read book and I asked the author why didn’t they couple fight for their marriage, because I could see there was hope. I think we live in a society where it is easy to give up, don’t fight just concede. I’m one to believe in fighting for your marriage

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 19:07:32 +0000

I also felt disappointed to learn they hadn’t stuck it out. I think it would have made the story better if they hadn’t been estranged from each other. Their son’s life choices would have been even sadder and more provocative against the backdrop of a home with two still-married-to-each-other parents.

By: Lindsay Harold

Lindsay Harold — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 18:46:46 +0000

I see this happening in movies all the time. One movie ends with the characters beating the odds to be together and they imply a happily-ever-after. Then they make a sequel where they’re fighting or divorced or separated, and I just cringe. What ever happened to sticking it out, no matter what? If Hollywood is to be believed, nobody ever does that. Everyone just gives up as soon as it’s no longer all roses and sunshine. That’s the norm. How very sad. I get tired of hearing that message all the time. We need more movies that elevate the courage and stubbornness and good character that makes a person fight for their marriage, even when it’s tough. It can be done, and many, many people have done it and succeeded. Giving up shows a lack of character, and should not be presented as normal, acceptable, or right.