Comments on: Aligning Your Sexual Desires with God’s Plan

By: The Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Persecuted | Hot, Holy & Humorous

The Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Persecuted | Hot, Holy & Humorous — Sat, 15 Oct 2016 12:49:00 +0000

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By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 18 Jan 2016 18:13:21 +0000

In reply to Ashlee. Ashlee, Thank you for your honest comment/question. I could have written it almost word-for-word myself. I have been looking for answers but have turned up none (though, I have read a bit about asexuality and wonder if that applies to me). I just wanted to reply to tell you you're not alone. I hope we find what we are looking for! Best wishes to you!

By: J

Tue, 12 Jan 2016 13:57:25 +0000

In reply to Ashlee. I usually respond right away when I approve a comment like this. But honestly, I want to mull this one over a bit. It keeps sticking in my head that something undiscovered is going on, but I don't have great advice to offer just yet. I'm praying for you and will get back to you soon.

By: J

Tue, 12 Jan 2016 13:54:00 +0000

In reply to Ruth Buezis. I'm terrible at memorizing scripture too, so we'll hang in there together and encourage each other. We can do this! :)

By: Ruth Buezis

Ruth Buezis — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 13:28:31 +0000

Looking forward to the new series. I am terrible at memorizing scripture but in the last few months very clearly heard God say, “you are going into battle, put on the armor of God.” I want to have scripture at my fingertips because the only advice that is worth anything, is God’s word. I love the tip on memorizing too. Thanks, Ruth

By: Ashlee

Ashlee — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 03:02:29 +0000

What do you do if you have never felt
Sexual desire for anyone ever? On top of that what if your body has never felt arousal despite every attempt from myself and my spouse? All my hormones test normal. Even tried a testosterone cream just to see but it didn’t do anything. I don’t have any hang ups and didn’t grow up with a strong religion but rather secular actually. Same as my husband. We were saved after we were already together for years. I love him and he is my best friend and we have a fantastic working marriage and he is crazy for me and there is no one I would rather spend time with then him! We’ve prayed and talked about our sexuality for years and years. He desires sex and I just never have. He gets aroused and I don’t even know exactly what arousal would even look like for me because I’ve never experienced it. No libido and my body doesn’t respond to sexual advances regardless of time spent or “strategy” as we have tried many. I know God created my body to respond sexually to my husband and created me to desire my husband but it’s just never happened even after 10 years of marriage and 2 babies later. I’m not on any medications and haven’t taken bith control since 2005. We are young 30’s. If I was single I wouldn’t be frustrated by this as I would make a great nun. But I am married and it would be nice to enjoy sex as much as my husband does and have the same desires he has and experience phsyical arousal like other women… I’m not even asking for an orgasm. I’m just asking for desire or arousal. To feel something… Anyhing. My husband knows and has learned that it’s not him and that my mom existant libido and my body’s inability to respond sexually is not his fault or even have anything to do with him. I just never developed sexual desire even though I went through puberty. That part just stayed the same as if I were a 10 year old girl. Not sure how to awake something that has never been born or developed and I can’t force it (I’ve really tried) so again I am not sure I can ever align the marriage bed to work the way God designed it. That’s like telling a quadriplegic to walk like everyone else when they were born that way. They don’t know any different or how to walk or what it would even feel like to walk and it would feel and appear to be impossible given the facts. I pray regularly that God would give birth to my sex drive or God would allow my body to respond to my husband sexually and become aroused but for now… I just muddle through and love my husband the best way I know how as a cripple.

By: Brielle Thompson

Brielle Thompson — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 00:27:37 +0000

In reply to J. Thank you so much, J! That just means the world to me!

By: J

Mon, 11 Jan 2016 18:16:34 +0000

In reply to Brielle Thompson. I'll put your question in the queue. You are definitely not alone on this one!

By: Q&A with J: How Can I Forgive Myself for My Past? | Hot, Holy & Humorous

Mon, 11 Jan 2016 17:13:57 +0000

[…] If you struggled with sin — even sexual sin — after you accepted Christ as your Savior, you’re not alone. The switch wasn’t immediate for most of us either. Instead, we need a full-fledged strategy for walking in new life and aligning our sexual desires with God’s plan. […]

By: Beth

Beth — Mon, 11 Jan 2016 15:31:25 +0000

I’ve been convicted this past year about Scripture memory and its impact on my attitude in life and marriage, J. So I totally resonate with where you are coming from and are going with this post. I see the tie in to my love for my husband greatly. Thanks so much for grounding us in God’s truth and challenging us to make meaningful connections with our God and our spouses. Thanks also for the many tweets for MM. I truly appreciate it, my friend!