His blood continously cleans our sins as we focus on keeping Him Lord.

I John is a refreshing little book to show we have a Savior that loves us in spite of any type of sin, sexual or other. Other verse in there include but are not imited to: 2:1 – 2, 3:1 – 3, 3:19 – 22, 4:19 and 5:11 – 13.

Forgive yourself, new truths, act like you should are great points. The hard part is understanding that something doesn’t have to define you…

This post was not written to victims of abuse, but those who have sinned in their own past. Although I don’t see how choosing to engage with your husband is “abuse all over again.” I know women who have recovered from past sexual abuse — what they seem to have in common is getting good Christian mentoring or counseling, speaking honestly with their husbands about their fears, and going very slowly and carefully with them in control of how things unfold to awaken different, better feelings in sexual activity.

I hate that anyone ever has been abused, because the pain victims continue to feel — even in God-sanctioned marriage — is truly awful. But a close friend of mine also attests that the scale tipped for her at some point when sexual intimacy with her husband became the definition of sex in her head, not what some horrible person did to her years and years before.

I’m so glad you have an understanding husband. I agree there are other ways to be intimate, although I hope you’re including physical intimacy in there — at least as a goal. And I am saying a prayer for you. May the Lord who is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) wraps you in His arms, comfort you with His love, and strengthen you and your marriage. Blessings.