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		By: Jeff Banks		</title>
		<link>https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50573</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jeff Banks]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Mar 2016 02:00:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50352&quot;&gt;J&lt;/a&gt;.

I never made an assertion that I said had anything to do with beliefs I certainly don&#039;t want to tread on yours. I encourage you to believe whatever you feel is in your heart,  God loves us no matter our perception or concept of him 

Christ is the manifestation of love it&#039;s self in it&#039;s purest form Christ is more than just a man or a name he is indeed the savior of all. The only belief I have is actualism, the actual processes of nature go well beyond that of our understanding only the mind of God himself truly understands those processes. I asked God years ago to show me the understanding of our existence and he showed me.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50352">J</a>.</p>
<p>I never made an assertion that I said had anything to do with beliefs I certainly don&#8217;t want to tread on yours. I encourage you to believe whatever you feel is in your heart,  God loves us no matter our perception or concept of him </p>
<p>Christ is the manifestation of love it&#8217;s self in it&#8217;s purest form Christ is more than just a man or a name he is indeed the savior of all. The only belief I have is actualism, the actual processes of nature go well beyond that of our understanding only the mind of God himself truly understands those processes. I asked God years ago to show me the understanding of our existence and he showed me.</p>
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		By: J		</title>
		<link>https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50379</link>

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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Mar 2016 14:14:58 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50364&quot;&gt;Chris C.&lt;/a&gt;.

Your comment breaks my heart. I pray something happens to change her attitude.

In the meantime, answering (2) -- consult the Bible for how extravagant our love should be. I don&#039;t mean that you ignore boundaries -- you don&#039;t give others free rein to damage you, another child of God -- but we usually have to do far more than seems fair or reasonable. Do I get this right with everything in my marriage? Nope. But I believe it&#039;s God&#039;s calling for me, so I aim for it again and again.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50364">Chris C.</a>.</p>
<p>Your comment breaks my heart. I pray something happens to change her attitude.</p>
<p>In the meantime, answering (2) &#8212; consult the Bible for how extravagant our love should be. I don&#8217;t mean that you ignore boundaries &#8212; you don&#8217;t give others free rein to damage you, another child of God &#8212; but we usually have to do far more than seems fair or reasonable. Do I get this right with everything in my marriage? Nope. But I believe it&#8217;s God&#8217;s calling for me, so I aim for it again and again.</p>
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		By: Chris C.		</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:25:45 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Yeah, yeah, yeah... I see that everyone has an opinion and great, if not good, ideas. But it really doesn&#039;t matter to me what anyone has to say because...
1it doesn&#039;t matter how much one tries to be for the other if the other doesn&#039;t appreciate it, want it, or care for it.
2 how selfless does one have to be regardless of how selfish the other is.
3 regardless of what one does the other does NOT enjoy it. Period.
4 there&#039;s an excuse for any day of the week to where I&#039;ve actually been told... &quot;Not tonight, my hair hurts.&quot;
5 its like this... This is a great love story of a man and a woman full of and with passion, understanding, commitment, sacrifices, honor, loyalty, everything that any couple would want in a marriage except for the physical activity of sex and being naked together.
6 she doesn&#039;t want it then he doesn&#039;t need it.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yeah, yeah, yeah&#8230; I see that everyone has an opinion and great, if not good, ideas. But it really doesn&#8217;t matter to me what anyone has to say because&#8230;<br />
1it doesn&#8217;t matter how much one tries to be for the other if the other doesn&#8217;t appreciate it, want it, or care for it.<br />
2 how selfless does one have to be regardless of how selfish the other is.<br />
3 regardless of what one does the other does NOT enjoy it. Period.<br />
4 there&#8217;s an excuse for any day of the week to where I&#8217;ve actually been told&#8230; &#8220;Not tonight, my hair hurts.&#8221;<br />
5 its like this&#8230; This is a great love story of a man and a woman full of and with passion, understanding, commitment, sacrifices, honor, loyalty, everything that any couple would want in a marriage except for the physical activity of sex and being naked together.<br />
6 she doesn&#8217;t want it then he doesn&#8217;t need it.</p>
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		By: J		</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Mar 2016 03:43:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50331&quot;&gt;Jeff Banks&lt;/a&gt;.

Your concept of God, therefore, is not mine. I worship a personal being who created all things and gave me a savior in Jesus Christ. I don&#039;t believe the universe is God, but that the universe is God&#039;s.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50331">Jeff Banks</a>.</p>
<p>Your concept of God, therefore, is not mine. I worship a personal being who created all things and gave me a savior in Jesus Christ. I don&#8217;t believe the universe is God, but that the universe is God&#8217;s.</p>
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		By: Jeff Banks		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Jeff Banks]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 17:29:22 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50313&quot;&gt;J&lt;/a&gt;.

I can remember my first memory in this life, I can remember inhabiting my body and conciousness and being born into the world. I know this it didn&#039;t happen at birth it happened at about a year and half old. I can remember my first memory was looking into the sun it was blinding and I was screaming inside. Afterwards I can remember being pushed along in my stroller and my perception of the world was that of and adult devoid of all memories. The only explanation to me is that perception to be an echo from a previous life it was only temporary what was not temporary is that memory it is still like it happened yesterday to me. 

We are definitely made in the image of God as God is not singular in his image but all encompassing, God is life it&#039;s self scientifically known as the Universe.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50313">J</a>.</p>
<p>I can remember my first memory in this life, I can remember inhabiting my body and conciousness and being born into the world. I know this it didn&#8217;t happen at birth it happened at about a year and half old. I can remember my first memory was looking into the sun it was blinding and I was screaming inside. Afterwards I can remember being pushed along in my stroller and my perception of the world was that of and adult devoid of all memories. The only explanation to me is that perception to be an echo from a previous life it was only temporary what was not temporary is that memory it is still like it happened yesterday to me. </p>
<p>We are definitely made in the image of God as God is not singular in his image but all encompassing, God is life it&#8217;s self scientifically known as the Universe.</p>
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		By: J		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[J]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 16:18:23 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50283&quot;&gt;Jeff Banks&lt;/a&gt;.

I see some truth in what you say. Although I don&#039;t know how to not interpret this in a &quot;religious&quot; way, since my faith permeates my worldview. For instance, &quot;When our souls are born into a physical life we lose that connection and attain an individualistic consciousness&quot; strikes me as different from my belief that God creates our souls and physical lives at once. Perhaps I would see it more as humans being made in His image, and thus our souls bearing His mark of extravagant love. Thanks for your comment!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-50283">Jeff Banks</a>.</p>
<p>I see some truth in what you say. Although I don&#8217;t know how to not interpret this in a &#8220;religious&#8221; way, since my faith permeates my worldview. For instance, &#8220;When our souls are born into a physical life we lose that connection and attain an individualistic consciousness&#8221; strikes me as different from my belief that God creates our souls and physical lives at once. Perhaps I would see it more as humans being made in His image, and thus our souls bearing His mark of extravagant love. Thanks for your comment!</p>
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		By: Jeff Banks		</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 01:30:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I will try and explain the difference from a philosophical and cosmological view point so please don&#039;t try and interpret this response in any religious context.

To begin to understand the difference of having sex an actualistic point of view must be undertaken. This comes right from the very heart of the Universe itself and its fundamental property/force which is love in its purest form. The Universe itself is biological, we are all components of the consciousness of the Universe, this is why our state of existence is so precious. When our souls are born into a physical life we lose that connection and attain an individualistic consciousness.

Truly falling in love with someone entails a commitment that goes beyond physical, it is an amalgamation of two souls and we find solace in our existence. Making love allows a couple to achieve all but for a moment our pure state of being in which our souls come from. Making love connects us physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually, sex is just a part of making love but only a very small slice of the pie. Sexual gratification alone has no bearing in truly fulfilling the needs it purporting to fulfill, rather I would liken sexual gratification to that of nicotine, it fools our brain into thinking it is something we need to survive. True love and making love because of that gives us the desire to wake up everyday and love each other and life that to me is the essence of long term survival.

Love is a factor of divinity, making love is the greatest factor of divinity we can achieve in this existence.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I will try and explain the difference from a philosophical and cosmological view point so please don&#8217;t try and interpret this response in any religious context.</p>
<p>To begin to understand the difference of having sex an actualistic point of view must be undertaken. This comes right from the very heart of the Universe itself and its fundamental property/force which is love in its purest form. The Universe itself is biological, we are all components of the consciousness of the Universe, this is why our state of existence is so precious. When our souls are born into a physical life we lose that connection and attain an individualistic consciousness.</p>
<p>Truly falling in love with someone entails a commitment that goes beyond physical, it is an amalgamation of two souls and we find solace in our existence. Making love allows a couple to achieve all but for a moment our pure state of being in which our souls come from. Making love connects us physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually, sex is just a part of making love but only a very small slice of the pie. Sexual gratification alone has no bearing in truly fulfilling the needs it purporting to fulfill, rather I would liken sexual gratification to that of nicotine, it fools our brain into thinking it is something we need to survive. True love and making love because of that gives us the desire to wake up everyday and love each other and life that to me is the essence of long term survival.</p>
<p>Love is a factor of divinity, making love is the greatest factor of divinity we can achieve in this existence.</p>
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		By: J		</title>
		<link>https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-49530</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[J]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2016 18:45:50 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-49527&quot;&gt;Garden Wren&lt;/a&gt;.

Thanks! I appreciate your testimony and comment.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/02/27/dont-just-have-sex-make-love/#comment-49527">Garden Wren</a>.</p>
<p>Thanks! I appreciate your testimony and comment.</p>
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		By: Garden Wren		</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2016 17:30:10 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[J, I absolutely love your blog. It&#039;s always overflowing with insight and realistic in its context. 
I am very fortunate to have a husband whom adores me and vise versa. That being said, you&#039;re totally spot on in your assertion that while not every time is going to be the slow, steady, &quot;let&#039;s gaze into each others eyes for a hour&quot; love making, all acts should be performed in love and respect for one another... Even the good ole, after church, kids are FINALLY taking a nap, Sunday afternoon, race to the bedroom, quickie (which usually results in waking one or both of the munchkins up.) Marital sex is about coming together physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually as one flesh and I find it amazing just how much that union with my beloved proves almost theraputic for both of us, especially when one of us is stressed. It helps realign us and oftentimes significantly clears our heads, making the conversations afterwards some of the deepest, most productive we have. (I&#039;m not implying that our everyday interactions and conversations are less than, but there is just something special about the &quot;afterglow&quot; period.) Luckily were both pretty high drive and often joke that if we could get someone to watch the kiddos for a week we could probably figure out the solution to end work hunger or something before passing out from exhaustion. Marital sex is a truly amazing gift from God and it pains me to see so many couples struggling with understanding God&#039;s intent of that gift or never fully unwrapping it in the first place. Keep up the good work J. I sincerely believe you&#039;re helping more than you&#039;ll ever fully know!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>J, I absolutely love your blog. It&#8217;s always overflowing with insight and realistic in its context.<br />
I am very fortunate to have a husband whom adores me and vise versa. That being said, you&#8217;re totally spot on in your assertion that while not every time is going to be the slow, steady, &#8220;let&#8217;s gaze into each others eyes for a hour&#8221; love making, all acts should be performed in love and respect for one another&#8230; Even the good ole, after church, kids are FINALLY taking a nap, Sunday afternoon, race to the bedroom, quickie (which usually results in waking one or both of the munchkins up.) Marital sex is about coming together physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually as one flesh and I find it amazing just how much that union with my beloved proves almost theraputic for both of us, especially when one of us is stressed. It helps realign us and oftentimes significantly clears our heads, making the conversations afterwards some of the deepest, most productive we have. (I&#8217;m not implying that our everyday interactions and conversations are less than, but there is just something special about the &#8220;afterglow&#8221; period.) Luckily were both pretty high drive and often joke that if we could get someone to watch the kiddos for a week we could probably figure out the solution to end work hunger or something before passing out from exhaustion. Marital sex is a truly amazing gift from God and it pains me to see so many couples struggling with understanding God&#8217;s intent of that gift or never fully unwrapping it in the first place. Keep up the good work J. I sincerely believe you&#8217;re helping more than you&#8217;ll ever fully know!</p>
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		By: Keelie Reason		</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Feb 2016 02:13:13 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I think that making love encompasses all of the kissing and everything that happens leading up to and after sex is over. Definitely good to keep that mindset of enjoying the whole process, not just rushing to get to the big o, which is good, but better when you build anticipation.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think that making love encompasses all of the kissing and everything that happens leading up to and after sex is over. Definitely good to keep that mindset of enjoying the whole process, not just rushing to get to the big o, which is good, but better when you build anticipation.</p>
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