Yes, it’s ultimately between you and God. I give my biblically based opinions here, but I encourage people to study for themselves, pray about it, and listen to their conscience. Saying a prayer for y’all myself. Blessings!

Yet almost purposeful, in a sense, from where I’m sitting. (Long backstory, recent culmination of several areas of our lives).

God created everything, including sex. In our inherent nature, one could argue were doomed to fail and will always fall short on our own. I’m not trying to use this as a reason to justify what my husband and I do in our own bed. (We both adamantly feel that it’s between us -& God, and woud only ever be us two, unless he decides he’s gay after all-afore mentioned slope). Think of it as through it to get out of it.

I do love getting your perspective, to help me figure out how I feel, since I feel most everyone I know is too judgey. Husband included, sadly.

Same answers. And how is that a way to connect with hubby if it’s based on his deviant past? Moreover, the rectum is not designed for penetration, while the vagina is elastic. You might also look at what Christian marriage author Joe Beam has said about anal sex.

Ultimately, it’s not just what we’re willing to entertain in the bedroom, but what honors God. This post on Married, Consenting Adults: Whose Okay Really Matters? might clarify my views on this subject.

Basically, hubby wants to try pegging bc misses that act (amongst a few others) from his past. Wife feels more adventurous now, as a wife. Thoughts?

Interesting thought. But I think people would be surprised some of the sincere questions we Christian sex bloggers receive. Maybe you’re right, though. I still answered.

Yep, that is one of my concerns about anal penetration of any kind. It can easily be physically harmful.

Thanks for your kind and thoughtful response. I appreciate having you as a reader!

I will explain that I’m not among those who believe that only those things strictly and overtly forbidden in the scriptures are no-nos. If we use that standard, then we could not conclude that abortion and cocaine are wrong, yet Christians instinctively know they are against His will. How? We use our God-given reason to interpret biblical principles into modern-day applications. I believe that’s one reason God gave us the minds we have and used the format He used of stories, poetic literature, and more — He invites us to extrapolate, as long as we do so according to His will. Of course this sexual act isn’t like having sex with the same gender, but it is skewed in that direction and I find that to be a problem according to God’s Word.

First off, let me say I love this blog as a whole. This post, however, has me scratching my head a bit. I can clearly see where you are taken aback by the reader’s email. I have concern over the phrase “The wife giving the love, the husband receiving it.” If this means that the reader is not “receiving love” whilst penetrating his wife, there could be a relational problem, or perhaps a situation sex is purely a physical act. I could see where you could read that and think, “something is wrong here.” If, the phrase “the wife giving the love, the husband receiving it” is just an attempt to refer to the act while not being overly graphic, then I would not be as concerned. It’s just hard to tell.

For me, the head scratching part of this comes from your stating, “but maybe you’d like some biblical and practical backup for my answer.” As far as the practical, you did it. As with anything in life, we have to weigh out the positives and negatives in decisions. This includes other areas of life, such as food choices, clothing choices, which house to buy, etc. It’s all opinions and preferences, and we all have our own leanings. We can get that sort of talk all over the internet. One of the things that puts your blog in a more unique category, and why I (and many many others) keep coming here, is your putting things into a biblical perspective. Great way to go, but within there is dangerous territory. In our attempts to read “right or wrong” from the Bible we can skew things a bit. We all do that, so I am not taking you to task for it, but just wanted to alert you to it, at least in this case. To make the case that pegging is against God’s word, you rely on man’s reasoning. Yes, the Bible speaks against homosexuality in the manner you presented. Therefore, pegging is wrong due to it being a homosexual act. The only problem is, the act as described be the reader, does not include the key component to homosexuality, a member of the same gender. Using the “logic” of the instrument being used is male part shaped ,meaning it really is a male part, is on the level of saying that eating a pickle or a banana as being homosexual, because we all “know” what homosexuals put in their mouths.

Often, we find “right or wrong” being defined by circumstances than individual acts. For example, it is wrong for me to walk down the street and shoot someone. However, we could be justified in shooting someone if they break into our house and attempt to rape our spouse. The act of pulling a trigger on a weapon pointed at a person is the same, it’s the reason why that matters. In the excerpts from the submitted email, we do not see the “why.” The only indication we have as to why comes from your response. The only “why” given under that heading is gender role switching. We find, reading along further in your post, that that is in fact what the email is referring to. I will agree with you, that is a kind of a situation I am uncomfortable with. Marriage is a relational relationship. Marriage, as defined biblically, is to be a reflected image of Christ and the church (Eph. 5:21-33). I have yet to find a verse to support that sometimes we are Christ and Christ is the church.

I understand your thinking that closer indirect stimulation of the prostate (the prostate is not directly touched through the rectum) anally is not needed because of other ways to indirectly stimulate it makes sense. It’s kind of like how a man may not stimulate the wife’s vagina while stimulating the clitoris, because you can stimulate that area in other ways.

Again, love the blog, has been hitting all three of hot, holy, and humorous. In this post however, please do not fall into the trap of using man’s reasoning to say an act is wrong when the Bible does not speak to it. In the case of pegging, I would not be surprised if 95% of the pegging participants are acting outside of God’s word due to the “whys” of the individual situations. An object similar in shape to a male part does not make it a male part by proxy. Good thing too, the time it has taken to write this response has left me with only enough time to eat a banana before getting the kids off to school!

Thanking Christ for believers who serve other believers like you do,
Louye