Comments on: The Freedom to Make Your Marriage Better https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/ God's Design for Marital Intimacy Wed, 06 Jul 2016 18:06:59 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 By: e2 https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54905 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 18:06:59 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54905 In reply to B.

Yay, B. You go, girl.

]]> By: Lynn https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54902 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 17:06:05 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54902 So happy for you, B! Focus on this great progress in your marriage and don’t lose sight of it!

]]> By: a. nony https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54896 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 14:09:44 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54896 In reply to B.

This is so great!

I used to see crying as weakness (I was always told growing up it was manipulative to cry, so that’s even worse!), but now I have just embraced that all of my strong emotions — happiness, sadness, anger, frustration, disappointment — come out through my eyeballs! The people who know me and love me realize that. Also: Jesus wept, and he was the most emotionally strong and healthy human who ever lived. So there is that! đŸ˜‰

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54878 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 01:35:38 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54878 In reply to B.

Thanks for sharing this. I’m glad you’re talking and having some progress.

By the way, I don’t like really crying either, so I get that. But vulnerability and intimacy are pretty tied together, so if anyone is going to see me cry, the order is (1) God, (2) husband, (3) etc. and I’d better let go and be real. Blessings!

]]> By: B https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54872 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 00:50:09 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54872 Well, I needed this, too. Especially,

“Our mates have their own free will. However, I can choose how I approach my husband, our marriage, and even the sexual intimacy within. I can select attitudes, behaviors, and reactions that either comport with God’s calling for my life or stray from what He wants for my marriage.

I have the free will to make my marriage better, inasmuch as it depends on me.”

I’ve decided I need to try much harder to change in a positive direction. My way isn’t working. My husband and I had an interesting weekend. He was off Friday through Monday (which is UNHEARD of). We had a nice weekend, but we also had a LOT of talking, discussion, happiness and sadness (even tears – on my end – which also makes me so so mad because I see crying as a form of weakness, so I try never to cry, but anyhow……) I think the reason the tears came is because he finally broke through my “shield” and I allowed myself to feel.

Friday, Saturday, and the start of Sunday were discussion filled. Sunday night and Monday were fantastic. Today he’s back to work, but I hope to build on this weekend. But I’m realizing I myself have a lot of work to do. And it’s gonna be tough. I need to really think on your question:

“How can you use the freedom God gave you to make different choices today that will benefit your marriage and/or your marriage bed?”

]]> By: J https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54857 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 00:17:03 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54857 In reply to C.

Saying a prayer for you and your situation.

]]> By: C https://hotholyhumorous.com/2016/07/04/the-freedom-to-make-your-marriage-better/#comment-54851 Mon, 04 Jul 2016 20:45:01 +0000 https://hotholyhumorous.com/?p=15632#comment-54851 I needed this today, especially this: ” I can select attitudes, behaviors, and reactions that either comport with God’s calling for my life or stray from what He wants for my marriage.” It’s been a bumpy road, but change is possible! I almost always choose to react with anger, be offended, or lash out at my husband. It’s gotten out of hand, and – especially for the sake of our daughter – I need to make a 180. I don’t want her to grow up and treat her husband this way. Anyway, thanks!

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