And isn’t sex one very important part of being a marriage. I mean the Bible doesn’t talk about any ceremony or something when it comes to marriage. It just talks about sex. As it says in the verse that the man and the women will become one flesh. I get all interpretations that they have to be one in soul and spirit and etc. But the Bible verse says very clear that they are going to become one flesh. It could easily have said one soul(just some verses before that the Bible talks about soul) but it says flesh. I believe that shows that the foundation of marriage is sex. I don’t understand people who says that sex is just a “little part “of marriage. If it was just a little part of marriage then why did God use it as something that would unite two people in such a special way. If that’s what united them the first time then that is what will keep them together. That’s why adultoury is so horrible because it destroys that. And that’s why no sex in marriage can be so devastating to a marriage. I’m not saying that all other parts of marriage are wrong. Communication, trust and so on has to be there but sex is a cornerstone in a marriage. There are exceptions as you have mentioned and God knows that I believe. But apart from the exceptions a marriage isn’t a marriage without sex according to the Bible. I must say that I think her question is good and it’s really nice of her to considering to stop the relationship if they aren’t going to be on the same page on this. More women should do that. Sure some men would say that it doesn’t matter and that they will love her anyway but just wait after some months or years. I sometimes wish my wife would have told me she wasnt going to be so excited about sex in the marriage as it seemed she was before our marriage. That would have made me think if that was what I want because (sadly) my sexuality is kind of a big deal of who I am so I really respect this girl for thinking like that.

Amen! I love this description!

Beautifully stated!?

Agreed! 100%!!!

Perfectly summed up the way I saw things in regard to this post. I couldn’t help but think there are some deeper issues underlying the reason for the question having been asked.
After reading the post, I pretty much came to the same conclusion that you did.
Just seems like the common sense answer I guess…

TD

Yep!

🙂 I do so agree with all you wrote, both in the original post and in your reply.

There is part of my head that says that, regardless of what they’re missing, if they’re BOTH completely WILLING to accept that, it’s hard for me to tell them they’re wrong. But you’ve sliced it a little differently, and better. They’re not wrong, but they’re missing a ton of what God has intended and enabled us to do for each other.

But my real point was that I frankly do not believe for a moment that a year, five years, or even 15 years from now, one of them won’t wake up to what’s missing and then there’s going to be pain, possibly in industrial quantities, possibly with horrible breakage and brokeness, which could have been avoided. 🙁

“If both agree, by definition, yes, it’s ok.” That was my reaction for so many years, but I think a lot of problems have arisen from people saying that they just want to do things their way. Doesn’t God’s opinion on what a marriage — the institution He designed — should have matter?

But I absolutely agree with your second paragraph. It’s quite likely one will become “significantly disappointed” in the future, regardless of what they say now, if they pursue a sexless marriage by choice.

Thanks for your comment!