Racheal, I’ve made suggestions like no electronics in the bedroom. The idea was swiftly rejected. I refuse to have a television in the bedroom which was met with understanding. Not sure how those two are different. I purchased her a really nice comfort bike shortly after we wed. She’s been on it twice and just long enough to pedal around the cul de sac. We have walked on numerous occasions when the weather was cooler. I’d like to more often but with three children, (2) of my own and (1) between us, homework and after school activities make it difficult. She does work from home so lots of evenings are spent finishing up due to the little one interfering throughout the day.

However, like everything else, it takes effort or it, sex and affection, simply won’t happen.
If it’s been a while, I can spiral down emotionally with an annoying recurring internal dialogue that criticizes my needs as selfish. Work to do!

Technology is like a two-edged sword isn’t it? It can be used powerfully to encourage and connect people on the one hand, but on the other it can also distance and isolate, as you’re experiencing with your wife. When my husband and I married, we decided not to have a tv (though we obviously have computer/internet) and I’ve absolutely loved not having that time waster/distraction in the house. As a result we had a lot of children fast…hahaha…6 in 10 years (SO many people see our tribe and ask ‘don’t you have a tv?’)!
Do you ask her to go for a walk and she turns you down? I know there’s been a couple of times when hubby has asked if I want to go outside and watch the lightning during summer storms with him and I refused, feeling too busy. But mostly it’s great to jump at those opportunities to spend time together.
In regard to this blog post though, I totally agree that sex and affection should accompany each other. It definitely builds the marriage bond.