Comments on: Does God Care about Your Sexual Heartbreak?

By: G

Tue, 08 Aug 2017 18:31:50 +0000

Thank you. The heart needed this today.

By: Marcie Bridges

Marcie Bridges — Fri, 04 Aug 2017 18:38:21 +0000

I stumbled across this post via Twitter and so glad the Lord led me here. As a victim of sexual trauma, it has been very hard to be intimate with my husband. I’m in therapy, working on my self-worth and letting go of the guilt. All of which is helping, but I also think your book may help. I’ll be waiting for the print version to come available. Blessings!
~Marcie

By: Nancy

Nancy — Mon, 24 Jul 2017 20:25:01 +0000

In reply to I wish I could agree. I understand where you are coming from. For 17 years I have prayed, admitted when I was the problem(not easy) and tried to serve my husband so that he would start showing interest in me. Even with MS, I have kept myself in shape and have always been "there" for him if he wants me, but I have now changed my prayers to be for me to accept where we are and just accept our business and parenting relationship. He is a good provider and allows me access to his digital life whenever I ask for it. I don't doubt there is a God, but I constantly wonder if at the one moment, 20 years ago, when we had a bad argument that maybe that was God telling us to get out.

By: J

Mon, 24 Jul 2017 14:50:57 +0000

In reply to Anonymous. I think it's reasonable to ask God for perspective and patience with your sex drive. I don't think God wants to take away someone's sex drive in marriage; there's too much evidence that sexual intimacy is good for a marriage, so that would be counter to His plan. Praying for your wife's change of heart.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 24 Jul 2017 14:47:45 +0000

I have been praying that God would take away my sexual desire for the past 5+ years. God is now answering that prayer. It is such a big relief not having a strong sexual desire. A side benefit is little or no temptation of lust. This is not a solution for every sexually starved marriage but it sure has helped me.

By: Still Angry Over Sexless Marriage

Still Angry Over Sexless Marriage — Mon, 24 Jul 2017 11:05:58 +0000

As a husband of a sexless marriage for 20 years, I eventually believed that God or my ex-wife cared about me or my desires. This type of rejection for the high drive spouse, and I think especially for a man, is devastating. I’m now divorced and finding it was about my ex-wife, not me. I think God was there all of the time, but I lost my faith along the way. Good post!

By: J

Sun, 23 Jul 2017 12:29:12 +0000

In reply to I wish I could agree. I'm saddened by your story. I pray that you can see God showing up in your life, and that your wife will have a change of heart. Blessings.

By: David

David — Sun, 23 Jul 2017 10:07:23 +0000

Dear J

Beautiful and reassuring post, thank you. I am at about your #2 (except I am the husband): “It was when I realized how unloving I’d been to my [wife] that I began to put godly principles into practice in my marriage.”

I haven’t tried praying for more (actually any) sex. I think that would feel weird (also upsetting).

David

By: CG

CG — Sun, 23 Jul 2017 02:17:49 +0000

This!!! I remember many nights crying out to God wondering when He was gonna come thru and fix everything! But I thank God for the process and waiting on Him because my marriage is improved so much!

By: I wish I could agree

I wish I could agree — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 22:35:17 +0000

I hate to be a downer as I think your blogging is one of the best on this subject.
But I have to say after several decades of pouring my soul out (to God and my wife) and getting nothing, eventually I lost faith that there is a God out there listening. I am open to there being a God, but I can’t say I have anything that tells me so.

And I seem to doubt I will be glad at some point in the future as the “equipment” is failing. If my wife suddenly decided she wanted an intimate relationship now, I honestly think I would emotionally explode. The resentment I have been able to get under control would tear up any bit of the relationship we have in other areas.