I completely disagree. And I hear from spouses all the time for whom sex is a place of conflict in their marriage; God wants to be present and healing in that space. Moreover, my post makes it clear that God can handle first world, third world, and any other world issues all at the same time. It’s not an EITHER you pray for starving children OR you pray for sex in your marriage scenario; we can do both!

My husband had an interesting analogy on this. He asked whether you would tell the grocer that he shouldn’t sell chewing gum because it’s unimportant. Well, of course it doesn’t matter as much as meat and vegetables, but why can’t we have chewing gum too? Why can’t we allow God to grow us in all the areas of our life?

I’m not talking about obsession with sex or pursuing selfish pleasure. This is about God-given intimacy in marriage.

I recently was repainting the woodwork at home. I spent hours taping and masking off the windows, the wall,etc. I then spent less than 5 minutes actually spraying the paint on. Kind of an anticlimactic moment and it struck me that this was the exact same thing as sex. The returns hardly delivered on the amount of effort that went in.

So given all that, yes praying for better sex is selfish. These are first world issues. If we lived in a 3rd world country I hardly feel we’d be praying for better sex. So many more serious needs and issues.

Joe

Maybe you should tell God to grow up, since the Bible addresses our sexuality over and over and over. You can’t get very far in Genesis without encountering stories that demonstrate what God desires, and doesn’t desire, for this part of our lives. Moreover, the Word says to “cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). Surely, that “all” includes our sex lives. Or do you think we should bar God from our bedrooms?

My Christian website is focused on sex, but it’s a niche to which I feel called by God. I can name many, many Christian sites that rarely address this subject, if at all. And I’m not about “just focusing on feeling good and having a good time.” No, that’s selfishness. Rather, it’s about pursuing intimacy in the marriage bed that honors the One who gave marriages this gift. My goal is to show that being a Christian doesn’t stop at the bedroom doorway; rather, God’s desire for our lives should infuse every part of our lives, from our charitable giving to our compassionate service to our holy worship to our marital intimacy. That, I believe, is a mature faith.

Many blessings.

So sad what this world has come to. Everybody is just focusing on feeling good and having a good time. Every TV show is showing sex now, movies are unwatchable. Now just about every Christian website is focused on sex.

I wish everybody would get things in perspective, and grow up. What I’ve learned is people grow older, but few grow up.

Joe

Not an insignificant observation. It seems God has made our bodies to instinctively know when conception is a possibility. One author has noted studies which show a marked decrease in a man’s sperm count when masturbating as compared to the same man having uninhibited sex. One has to wonder how the use of contraception may be directly or indirectly contributing to other sexual dysfunctions in men, such as ED.

Slight correction – sex without birth control was the first command recorded 😉

But seriously, great thoughts! I appreciate this article!